Swinging, Window Seats, and Growing Old
Posted on May 11, 2008
Filed Under Lifestyle, byGentleNibblers
As part of her Mother’s Day today, the family took Mrs. Gentlenibbles to the theatre to watch “The Wedding Singer” the musical. Our family really enjoys going to the theatre and “The Wedding Singer” the movie, is one of our favorite movies. As I was watching the fantastic performance I found myself performing a little bit of introspection.
“The Wedding Singer” the movie and the musical is full of romantic ideology that many pessimists in the world today believe is unrealistic, and if it does exist, it is short lived in the passionate phase of the relationship. There are several scenarios in the movie which are used to illustrate to the audience the presence of true love between the hero and heroine,and the flaws of the love that exists between the heroine and the anti-hero.
In one scene the fiance (the anti-hero) would not let the heroine have the window seat on her first plane ride because the drink cart always bangs into him when it passes by. The tragedy being his self sightedness in not only withholding the opportunity for the heroine to enjoy the experience of the window seat on her first flight, but the fact it was now the elbows of his “love” that he was subjecting to the drink cart’s demise.
In another scene the heroine speaks of true love as being able to picture growing old with someone. Unfortunately, she goes on to describe this description with her fiance (the anti-hero) by only being able to come up with, “He will look good when he is old”. Of course the author intends for us as the audience to recognize the shallowness of the relationship between the heroine and the anti-hero.
In the end, the movie and musical reaches it’s climax by the hero confessing his love to the heroine and asking her to marry him. He does this in a song whose lyrics are as follows:
I wanna make you smile whenever you’re sad
Carry you around when your arthritis is bad
All I wanna do is grow old with youI’ll get your medicine when your tummy aches
Build you a fire if the furnace breaks
Oh it could be so nice, growing old with youI’ll miss you
Kiss you
Give you my coat when you are coldNeed you
Feed you
Even let ya hold the remote controlSo let me do the dishes in our kitchen sink
Put you to bed if you’ve had too much to drink
I could be the man who grows old with you
I wanna grow old with you
As members of the lifestyle, many people assume that there is some type of flaw or problem with one’s marriage and that on some level you are trying to fill some void in your marriage. And while I have no doubts that in some cases this is true, with the lifestylers that truly get the lifestyle there can be no larger falsehood. We have met and gotten to know so many couples whose marriages are solid, strong, and could put most of the marriages in the local baptist church to shame. What these people understand are the separation of sex from love. While sex is an awesome, powerful, and strong experience it is completely independent from Love.
Sex exists both in the presence and outside the boundaries of love, evidenced by the fact of how few adult virgins will read this post. I firmly believe that sex may deepen love and love most certainly improves sex but sex does not create, control, nor demonstrate love. Sex with Mrs. G is never sex, it is more than sex because it is with Mrs. G.
I apologize for a little bit of a soapbox and “preachy” post today, but I admit that I tend to be susceptible to romantic comedies!
So to all you happily married sexy swingers out there who have a good enough relationship to get the cheesy nuances of a Adam Sandler romantic comedy, here is to window seats and growing old!
Mr. Gentlenibbles
Stumble it!The Comic Strip - Swinger Swingers Everywhere
Posted on May 5, 2008
Filed Under Lifestyle, byGentleNibblers
Last weekend, we ventured out to a comedy club and met some fellow lifestylers for a vanilla night out on the town (until after the show anyways)!
During the show the comedian, Eddie Cruz began calling out people in the audience and finding out interesting “facts” about them to use as jokes. There was a group of four older people sitting at a table fairly close to the stage, opposite stage from our table, two men and two women, all over the age of sixty. One of the pairs introduced themselves as best friends. Upon further investigation, the comedian uncovered the fact that the four of them were “swingers.” Finding this out, of course, evoked much dismay and laughter from the audience and many jokes to follow throughout the remainder of the show.
Little did anyone in the club know that opposite stage from them, where we sat, was a table of three more swinging couples, all under the age of 40ish, but no one ever suspected that. I think if we were asked about it, we would have admitted to it, but we did not divulge any unsolicited information. The funny thing is, the comedian was selling t-shirts that said “Swinger” and had a tire swinging from a rope. Of course, we had to have one! You had to wonder a little about him. After all, he even incorporated a swinger joke into his routine that had to do with his wife, not an audience member!
So, here we are at that stereotypical crossroads again. Is it such a bad thing? I guess it helps us younger generation swingers keep our identity to ourselves. I guess no one expects “young” people to be interested in the lifestyle or maybe they think we don’t know about it! Little do they know, we’ve taken it to the next level, and the Internet provides a whole new approach to meeting people and evolving the world of swinging. After all, we must carry on their legacy!On the other hand, swingers are normal people, too! We just know how to have a good time! We like a little more flirt and a little more skin at our parties. We don’t get jealous if someone thinks our spouse is “hot!” We just agree and it makes that much better to enjoy! Hopefully there’s a mutual attraction and you never know where that party could end up.
We went on a cruise sponsored by a lifestyle group. It was a vanilla cruise with lots of families on board, so it was not a “run around naked for five days” crazy party like one would expect, but it was a lot of fun. We had time for private parties and not-so-private sun tanning parties on the top deck. Before the end of the cruise, everyone on the ship knew what those yellow wrist bands meant. The comedians were attending our parties and using “swingers” as subjects in their stand-up routines!What is it that is so funny about “swingers?” Is it the word? Is sex that funny? I just can’t quite figure it out! Maybe we need a new name. Every time we get into these discussions with fellow members of our great society, we all agree that we need a new name, but no one ever has any suggestions that stick!
~Mrs. Gentlenibbles
Tips for Better Pictures - Swinger Pics Part Two
Posted on May 1, 2008
Filed Under Lifestyle, New Swinger Advice, byGentleNibblers
(This post is a continuation of this previous post on profile pics for new swingers on swinger websites such as CouplesTouch.com and Lifestylelounge.com.)
A couple of days ago, we discussed some of the things to watch out for when it comes to putting pictures in your profile. Now lets discuss some tips for taking better pictures when you decide to do that sexy new photo shoot!
Have Fun! When you decide to do a photoshoot, make a night of it. Send the kids off to the sitters and set up the shoot in the house or at a fun location where you can be totally relaxed and not hurried. Buy a nice bottle of wine and have some of your favorite music playing in the background. Very rarely do we have a photoshoot that is not interrupted by some very hot sex at some point. If you are relaxed, happy, and excited it will show in your photos!
Let There Be Light! One of the first tips you will read on any photography website is to use more light when taking your portraits. The flash that comes with a camera is adequate for most candid photos, but for good quality portraits usually more light is needed. Go to Lowes or Home Depot and purchase some simple construction lights that are relatively inexpensive. Don’t necessarily aim all the lights at the subject. Try bouncing some off the ceiling and some off the wall behind the subject. This will help diffuse the light and remove shadows.
Take Pictures Until Your Fingers Bleed! Congratualtions World, we have entered the digital age! This means there is no extra cost associated with how many pictures you take, and erasing is simple. Take multiple pictures of every pose you decide to do, or just keep on taking the pictures while letting your sexy subject (more…)
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