Six Things Your Mother Taught You About Swinging! - Part 2

As promised a couple of days ago here are the last three lessons your Mother taught you about swinging! 

Life is what you make of it
Just like the wallflowers at your high school prom, if you don’t get out there, mingle, and get to know some people you most likely will have trouble finding a couple to “dance” with.  One of our favorite parts of the lifestyle is meeting people, having fun, and flirting like crazy!  If you work on those three things, don’t worry because the sex will take care of itself.  Often new couples are so intimidated by the upcoming naked activities, that they have trouble enjoying all the fun with the clothes on.  Just relax and picture everyone naked, unless they are naked.  In that case drop your drawers, take lots of pics and send them our way!

If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all! 
One of the number one turn-offs listed over and over by lifestylers is the term “drama”.  If you and your spouse are having some issues, whatever you do keep that to yourself and head for the house.  A small spat tends to get bigger after the clothes come off.  Mrs. Gentlenibbles and I won’t even consider playing with a couple if they appear to have any issues whatsoever.  We just do not want to take the chance of getting stuck in the middle of a fight.  Even though the lifestyle community is quite large, if you get known as a couple that tends to be a little dramatic you will find fewer couples interested in spending time with you!

I don’t care that all your friends are doing it!
This may be one of the most important things you learn about the lifestyle.  If at any point you feel uncomfortable or in a situation you can’t control, STOP what you are doing.  Too often new couples tend to feel a need to keep from disappointing playmates even if it goes against rules they may have in place.  Just because you are a swinger does not mean that your thoughts and rules about your body and sex are any less important.  If someone is trying to coerce you into moving further than you are comfortable, then they are in the wrong not you!  A simple rule to tell yourself is “You are in this for fun and pleasure, if at any point neither of those qualities are present, stop and leave!”

The point of these lessons from our mother is quite obvious!  Just like real life use common sense when navigating the lifestyle.  Know yourself, your spouse, and your comfort levels and treat others with respect and adhering to theirs.  Follow that simple advice and you will be a long way towards learning to swim in the “swinging” sea!