Do Soft Swappers Have More Fun?
February 4, 2008 by Mr. GentleNibbles
(Let me preface this sure to be controversial, but hopefully thought provoking post with the statement that Mrs. Gentlenibbles and I are “full swap” as labels go and have no plans of removing this from our “swinger” playbook anytime soon. That being said, we actively enjoy times with both full swap and soft swap couples…… Now read on to see what the hell I am blabbering about)
If in your swinger lifetime you have spent longer than 26 seconds on any type of lifestyle forum you have no doubt ran across a thread debating the choice of soft swap or full swap as a swingers playbook. There are always some pretty colorful and interesting responses as why some couples choose their particular flavor.
In the latest episode of Swingercast, Allie (the sexier half of the worlds most famous soft swap swinger couple) gives a fantastic oration of why she enjoys being a soft swap couple. It really hit home with a phenomenon that Mrs. Gentlenibbles and I have observed ourselves.
Soft Swap play sessions seem to be intensely erotic and sensual affairs. Mrs. Gentlenibbles and I have observed that often even without penetration soft swap encounters can be more “sexual” than some full swap encounters. Now before you begin to think that I am a few swimming sperm short of a fertile cumshot hear my reasoning. (OK that was a little tacky word choice)
In a soft swap encounter, the foreplay is everything. The entire purpose and motivation of the play is to enjoy the exploration and interaction with another persons body. In our encounters with soft swap couples we find there tends to be much more focus and attention on all of the little things that take sex from good to extraordinary. One of both Mrs. Gentlenibbles and my favorite encounters was with a soft swap couple.
We have been in some full swap scenarios where there seems to be such a focus on getting to the penetration that a large chunk of the fun stuff gets either completely ignored or rushed. Guys turn your eyes away from the computer, I am about to lose a chunk of my man card…. I will admit that the act of penetration itself, although enjoyable is just a small step up the ladder from masturbation. OK, a little more than a small step but the point is that everything leading up to the penetration and all the sexual energy that it creates during penetration is what makes great sex!
Full Swappers the secret is this, “When done right all full swap encounters should begin as great soft swap encounters!!!” Then, when the two, four, six, or more of you are absolutely ready to burst, it is time to strap one on, yell yippee-ki-yay, and rock out with your cocks out…or something like that.
We realize there are some couples that enjoy the wham bam thank you ma’am type of encounter, but we just like a little more.
Something like:
wh…Wh….wha…wHa…WhA…WHA..WHAM BAM….WHAM BAM BAM….OH SHIT WHAM WHAM HOLY F*IN BAM ended with a kiss on the cheek and a friendly Texas Thank you ma’am!
So in conclusion, do we think soft swappers in general have more fun. No, but that does not mean they have any less fun or that we would be any less excited to get their pants off! 
Next time you and your spouse are playing with each other or another couple, spend a little more time on the foreplay and see if your smile gets any bigger on your way to the shower afterwards!!!
What is your opinion on soft swap versus full swap!
~Mr. Gentlenibbles
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Very well put guys! We agree wholeheartedly. No problem with the full swap concept at all, but a lot of people are very anxious to get to the penetration. Much, much too anxious.
I’ll just say it takes a bigger man to make a controversial statement than to say “yeah, me too” and feel like part of the team.
Absolutely.
Thanks for the comments guys. We are glad to see we are not the only ones who have noticed this!
Mr. and Mrs. Gentlenibbles
Hmmm, I don’t seem to fit into either category! I only play with other ladies and my other half plays fully with other females. Is that even a swap, I’m not sure, does it even matter?
I can understand where you’re coming from though (scuse the pun!). Fortunately for me, sex with another woman really is just an extended foreplay session, unless there’s a strap-on involved of course(which I can’t wait to try). And yes, I too have seen the eagerness to penetrate, such a shame, as it’s ‘over and out’ all too soon.
s_n_s
We reserve FS for those SS couples where we feel the “butterflies” that Allie spoke of. When we get that nice tingly feeling, we just like to know that we have the FS option. In theory, we’re a SS couple with extra options. If that makes sense.
We love the foreplay (SS) and would be highly dissapointed to skip that. I still remember the first time of a SS session where I thought… “This is so hot I’d really like to do more with this couple”. I’m sure it wouldn’t have been so hot without the good long foreplay (SS).
Love the article. Couldn’t agree more.
Ms. B
Not sure I agree that SS is more fun Mr G.
I do agree that if things are rushed then that spoils the fun (there is nothing worse.)
I am one of the people who ascribe to the view that if I’m prepared to let a girl take me in her mouth then elsewhere is natural too, i.e. I don’t make a distinction.
The distinction for us is how you feel about it after. Nothing I do with anyone affects how I feel about Paula. See http://couples.net.au/main/index.php/News/Lifestyle/The-Intimacy-Question.html for our take on it. (Hope you don’t mind the plug but I think it’s relevant.)
Luke
Spark~
Your right, I don’t think that fits either situation, but still really hot!!!
Mrs. B~
I can say that situation is really awesome from the other side as well. We had a couple that was soft swap and that was all we expected. After an hour of great play, they started asked us if we would minds full swapping. It turns out they had been considering it for awhile, but just wanted to wait until the found the chemistry to push it. It was so intense and exciting. I am smiling just typing this and thinking of that night!!!!
Luke~
I did not mean to make it sound like soft swap is more fun. Just when done right a good soft swap is way better than a lazy full swap. Thanks for the plug, it was extremely relevant!!!
~Mr. Gentlenibbles
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