Personality - The Swinging “It” Factor

The science of sexual attraction is a complex beast well above my comprehension, but I do know this.  Sexual attraction inside the Lifestyle and outside the Lifestyle is very different. 

Sexual compatability is the name of the game in the Lifestyle.  Ranking far above abs, great legs, big tits, perfect lips, and an ass you can bounce a quarter off of is sexual compatability.  Sure, all of the aforementioned qualities play a large role in sexual compatability for some some couples, but even more important are things like attitude, confidence, intelligence, wit, and all thing persona!

As an individual we have specific features that turn us on or turn us off.  Things like sexy bare feet, broad shoulders, blonde hair, sensual kisser, round ass, etc.  These are qualities and images that may trigger a sexual urge in us as an individual, but swinging is not a solo sport! 

When a couple swings, they are not necessarily blindly trying to please some individual need or desire.  As a couple, they are working to increase the intensity and enjoyment of their sexual relationship as a pair. 

This may be done in part by finding that sexy blonde that is a great kisser, but it is more often accomplished by finding that right individual or couple that represents fantasies and desires while at the same time keeping comfort levels high and the chemistry strong.

The point is, with three or more people the social dynamic of sexual relations is much different than a interlude between a man and a woman.   For this reason, personality is the name of the game in the Lifestyle.  A swinger or couple with bad attitudes or awkward personalities will find the swinging cupboards a little bare, while a fun, easy going couple, in a secure relationship is going to have to work real hard to manage all the couples clamoring to their dance card!

Of course physical attractiveness is still involved.  If a couple finds another couple completely unattractive there is little chance of rocking headboards in that foursome’s future.  However, if the overall physical attraction is somewhat neutral, smiles and great conversations can go a long way! 

Lets put it another way…

If Mrs. G and I are out having a good time and meet a couple that we find somewhere middle of the road on our “HOT” meter, but click with their personalities very well.  Hang on, because there is some pants dropping, panty pulling, butt cheek biting, carpet burn inducing fun in our near future!

On the other hand if that couple is a 10.2 out of 1 to 10 scale on our “Hot” meter, but have the personalities of a small pile of widdling chips or they are rude, arrogant, or obnoxious….  Hang on, because we may accidentally knock you over in our extreme urgency to put empty space between us and them! 

Even above individual personalities, is the overall personality of the couple.  Guys, have you even been hanging out with a buddy, and then his wife showed up and all of the sudden he was a completely differenct guy?  Or Ladies.  Do your girlfriends talk or behave differently on girls night out then when the husbands are around?  This is the same of Lifestyle couples, although due to their openness and honesty with each other, it is much less obvious. In swinging though, you usually are dealing with the couple so this amalgative persona applies.  For this reason the personality and relationship of a couple play an extremely large role in a couples overall attraction level!

Our absolute number one turn on is to meet a couple at a club that is absolutely in love with each other!  It is so sexy to see a couple that is completely happy, secure, partner aware, and can not keep their hands off of each other!  When we find this couple…  Don’t worry about hanging on, just put on safety glasses because buttons may be flying, shirts ripping, and underwear disintegrating! 

Mr. Gentlenibbles
Note:  In case you may be worried…..  “butt cheek biting” and “underwear disintegrating” were used for entertainment purposes only