The Twenty Percent Rule

I received an email from some friends of ours in the Lifestyle the other day. The email, in response to one of our posts mentioned a rule they have that I think a lot of new swinger couples would benefit from knowing and putting into place in their swinging repertoire.

The rule is quite simple. Both spouses should always ensure that in any swinging situation they pay at least twenty percent more attention to their spouse than anyone else! It is amazing how many new couples who have never had jealousy issues before can run into some problems during their first few experiences. When examined more closely, most often the source of the jealousy is not the fact the spouse is with someone else, but the fact their partner feels alienated or left out of the experience.

The couple that sent us the email about the twenty percent rule is a couple that we have always admired for their very solid relationship.  They are almost always right beside each other at the club and when flirting with others you can always catch them checking in with each other with a smile, wink, or nod.  Often during more intense situations you see them constantly directing the attention back to their spouse.  It is a very very sexy thing to observe!

The effect of putting each other first will not only be felt by you, but your play partners as well.  Mrs. Gentlenibbles and I are extremely turned on by couples that have and exhibit a great relationship and strong love.  Your affection will not only make the experience greater for you, but you will also find many of your play partners signing up for another slot on your dance card!

The twenty percent is obviously not an exact analytical assessment of your overall attention while involved in swinging activities, but more to be a reminder that no matter what at the end of the day make the experience about pleasing your spouse.  The beauty of this little trick is that if you put your spouse first and they put you first, you both win and will have the experiences of a lifetime!

A simple look, smile, or comment in your spouse’s direction in the heat of them moment can not only reassure them, but can also be incredibly erotic as well.  So try this, next time you are about to orgasm in the arms of one of your tremendously lucky play partners make eye contact with your spouse, give them a wink, and mouth the words “I love you!”  I would bet you money it will put a smile on their face!

~Mr. Gentlenibbles

Do you and your spouse have any unique thoughts or rules that you use to enhance your swinging experiences?  Send us an email and share them with us at thenibblers@gentlenibbles.com.