Swingers and the Water Cooler
Where I work, we have very tight knit group and we often have very open discussions and our jokes almost always have sexual undertones. We all laugh and usually forget that there are other people in the office who might not appreciate our humor! I am sure the bosses overhear, but just ignore us! I am really surprised we have not been called to HR, but I guess if no one is complaining, we are OK! Water cooler talk is what I call it!
My views of the topics of water cooler talk have changed drastically since entering the lifestyle, although it probably does not have as much to do with the lifestyle as it does just broadening my sexual experiences in general. As Mr. G explained on our About Us page, I was raised in a very religious environment with all sisters, so sex has been a learning experience for me for most of my married life.
Recently, one of my co-worker’s husbands was having a birthday and in trying to decide what to get him for his birthday, our water cooler talk turned to “The Top Three Things Any Guy Would Want for His Birthday!” One of the guys in the office raised his hand real quick and said “I know” then walked out of the office laughing. Us girls took a few minutes to come up with the following list:
1. To watch two girls
2. A blow job
3. Anal sex
I had to help them figure out the third one. We called our laughing coworker back into the office, but did not tell him that we had figured them out. We played innocent and made him tell us what they were! He was turning all shades of red and doing all kinds of sign language trying to explain them. It was quite entertaining!
It makes me laugh to hear co-workers talk about guys fantasies of girl/girl relations now. Usually they say, “Oh, he would not know what to do if he was in that situation.” Being in the lifestyle, I know plenty of guys who have figured it out!
The other amusing thing is the women’s reactions to girl/girl relations. Bringing into light here that I have played ‘gently’ with one of the ladies in this conversation at the end of a strip poker night!! Of course, we would never discuss that at work, but it is comical to know what I know and just watch the conversations. If they only knew what I knew!!
Another co-worker happened upon our conversation and was amused at our topic of conversation. He is one that usually turns most of the jokes into sex jokes, but he was taken back that us ladies were the ones leading the conversation this time. His face actually turned red!!
It is just fun to be an adult and be able to laugh and enjoy the sexual side of life!! As an adult, knowing that other people enjoy sex and have fun with sex has been the biggest catalyst in my sexual growth. When I was a teen-ager, it was always “Don’t do it until you get married” and portrayed as a bad thing, but even after I got married and it was ‘legal‘, I still felt guilty because I had been told for so long no to do it!
Not everyone has the luxury of having a work place where the water cooler talk is so intriguing, but what about conversations with your vanilla friends who do not know you are in the lifestyle? Don’t you just want to spill your guts and tell them everything about the lifestyle? And how much fun it is? And what they are missing out on? It’s like a secret that few people know about. Of course, the lifestyle is not for everyone, but that is a topic for another day and another post!
Mrs. Gentlenibbles
(P.S. We are sorry about the relatively light posts lately, we are currently experiencing the perfect storm of Mr. G traveling an incredible amount for work, the kids wrapping up sport seasons, and me finishing up my last semester of school! – 
I graduate next month!)
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This is a great post. I have some coworkers that constantly complain about the lack of sex in their marriage. One has never had a blowjob. In his life. None. Nada. He’s been married to the only woman he’s ever had sex with since he got back from his LDS mission. And other than procreation she’s having nothing to do with sex.
So I sit and bite my tongue as these guys complain about their sex life, or lack thereof. I can’t say anything for fear of outing myself and losing friends and possibly a job. Lucretia and I have a great sex life and then some. What do I say to them? I really can’t relate to their situation. All I can do is listen and nod my head and when asked if I know what they mean, I just say “Nope, I don’t. Sorry.”
Lucretia was walking into her work one day as she came back from lunch and two guy coworkers were doing the same. Both of these guys married women that impressed their friends in public, but in private they barely had a sex life. Obviously what their friends think was more important than reality. But, back to my story. They approached my wife and said “Hey, you and Lucius have been married for a long time. How do you keep it interesting?” to which Lucretia replied “We just throw another chick in the mix every now and then.” and walked away, leaving them standing there with their mouths hanging open. From that day forward they thought I was a god.
Like you said… when you have that dirty little secret all you can do is giggle to yourself.
Lucious,
That is hilarious!
“We just throw another chick in the mix every now and then.” and walked away, leaving them standing there with their mouths hanging open”
I have been so tempted to make statements like that before! Good for you and Lucretia!
~Mrs Gentlenibbles
My husband and I love to “shock the vanillas” if you will when we openly discuss with them some of the things that we enjoy as swingers. For example, my husband told a lady we were sharing a table with at a bar one night that I was his wife, and then he turned to the woman we were on a date with that night, and he said “and this is the woman I hope to have sex with later this evening”. This lady’s jaw dropped and she looked at me for a response. I said to him “Ooh, I really hope so, honey, she’s so awesome…I really like her.” I half expected the woman to get up and storm out, but instead she just nodded her head and gave us a little “huh?” as if to say “interesting…” I like to believe that she saw how much fun we were having, and until my husband said it to her, she had no idea we were swingers any more than any other couple in the bar, but when she found out, it was like she had a new image of what a swinger is and decided to explore that possibility for herself. I like to think that…but who knows. Hubby did get to sleep with his date that evening. And her husband was loads of fun too. What on earth did we do for fun before all this?????
One of the things we like the most about being in the lifestyle is how fun it is to play and joke about sex, without having sex.
Great post.
Kasidie
Kasidie,
We agree, as a matter of fact sometime we think couples are in way to big of a hurry to have sex. There is so much fun to be had in a night full of flirting, teasing, and flaunting and it just makes the sex so much better at the end!
~Mr. and Mrs. Gentlenibbles