Life After DesirousParty? – A Brand New Swinging World
OK so we may be exaggerating a little bit by comparing our discovery of DesirousParty.com and their parties as life changing, but that does not mean it is anything short of extraordinary.
As you may recall, we attended the DesirousPary New Years Eve Formal, Lingerie, and Fetish ball last week and we are here to report that we had an unbelievably, indescribable and crazy good time! The party was huge, the women were gorgeous, and the dance floor was packed. This is now our third DesirousParty event, and each one has gotten exponentially better!
We were also incredibly lucky to be able to attend an awesome afterparty thrown by a great couple we met at the club. It was one of many afterparties taking place in the hotel where Desirous had taken over the top five floors with guests who chose to stay the night after the club!
We arrived at the hotel to check in about five in the evening, where we met a couple we had been talking to online and headed to the pre-party meet and greet held in the hotel bar. The meet and greet was the only small event of the evening, but still managed to have close to thirty or forty couples spend a couple of hours visiting and getting to know each other before getting dressed to head to the club.
This meet and greet was perfect for us, as we knew very few couples. We took advantage of the opportnity to meet as many couples as we could and had a great time. Following the meet and greet, after a brief stop at some new friends room where we were greeted by a beautiful nude wife fresh out of the shower, we headed to our room to get ready for the party.
Around nine in the evening we took the free Hummer limousine ride from the hotel over to the club not far down the street. At the door we were able to get right in where we found a nice buffet, plenty of bars to ensure short waits for drinks, a hell of a lot of Houston’s hottest couples, and a sexually charged atmosphere that ensured a great time was had by all for the duration of the evening.
After enjoying the balloon drop and free champagne, we quickly moved past our sadness of losing the raffle for the free trip to Jamaica and chose to skip the breakfast buffet in order to get back to the hotel and check out the afterparties. We were not disappointed as we ended up in a room full of sexy couples having a great time!
We finally got to sleep about seven in the morning on New Years Day exhausted but happy!
If you have not had a chance to check out DesirousParty’s website, we definitely recommend checking it out. Unlike most of the other swinger communities DesirousParty is an absolutely free website. It is extremely professionally done with tons of sexy couples from all over the country who travel to Houston to attend DesirousParty parties. But most of all by joining the website you get the latest scoop on when and where the next DesirousParty event is being held!
If you do check it out and sign up, make sure and say “Hi” if you do!
Take care,
Mr. and Mrs. Gentlenibbles
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In our opinion, DesirousParty is not a Lifestyle Group. They are a see and bee seen group, but in no way promote the true lifestyle, or provide true lifestyle resources to their profile. They in no way compare to sites like SDC, CouplesTouch and others.
Mike and Donna,
You make a really good point. I do believe that DesirousParty is more of a “Party Naked” group than a true Lifestyle group, and you are absolutely correct about their website profiles are not geared towards Lifestylers. We believe there is some crossover though, as many couples on their site are Lifestylers as well. Some of those couples we know from experience!
Thanks for keeping us on our toes!
Mr. and Mrs. Gentlenibbles
It’s a good point, and one we’ve heard made many times about DP and just certain groups that host and attend parties.
One question though — what is the “true lifestyle”? Is it possible that it means different things to different people?
Just wondering……
Hey WeDive,
By true Lifestyle, we refer to people or groups that at the end of the day are looking to swap, share, scope, or show with their new friends!
Although, I realize you meant your question deeper than that, and it is a great question!
It is one big swinger world, and ours is just a couple of butt cheeks in the much bigger picture!
lol
Thanks for the comments~
P.S. WeDive we will be checking back on your blog to see if you post the magic answer!
What a wonderful blog. How am I just now hearing about the Gentle Nibbles? I feel like I’ve been missing out. LOL.
We have been long time supporters of DP but have found them headed in the wrong direction and as mentioned in the comments, not truly lifestyle. It is very ‘seen and be seen’ and more clicks – which we are not fans of. Parties up to New Year’s Eve have been mediocre to say the least. La Strada is just not an appropriate venue for Lifestyle or sexy attire, especially if you get there early when people are eating! Yikes. We figure big events like NYE and Halloween can’t compete with DP right now, but aside from that, it’s hit or miss for us and private parties have become our favorite pass time and life after DP. I guess we go with the flow for now, but we’d love to see a new group that is hosted by a couple.
Thanks for the great post!
WhateverUlike (formerly SpectacularCpl)
Hey Whatever,
Glad you like the blog and have finally heard about us!
We have been thinking about doing more house parties and less clubs this year as well. Now we just have to work on getting invited to all those sexy house parites
Come back soon!
Mr. and Mrs. Gentlenibbles
Great minds think alike, it appears.
We are doing the exact same thing — and formed a group to focus on hotel/house parties.
We formed our own group to do it because as far as we could tell if you don’t know who all will be at a certain house party (leap of faith) you could get more/less than you bargained for.
Also, to the point above, we had wondered about the LaStrada gatherings and some of the others. Good idea in theory to have a neat, upscale place to go but hard to execute successfully because of built in obstacles like were mentioned above. Dinner guests look strangely at lingerie wearing people playing grab ass while they are waiting for dessert………
Hey WeDive,
Are you starting your group on CT, on your Blog, Yahoo Groupls, or sowewhere else? Just curious?
CouplesTouch…
Thanks goes out to GentleNibbles for hosting the blog and the comments about NYE. First and foremost I appreciate all the comments both negative and positive.
With being a party group and a site. DesirousParty tries to walk a fine line all the time. With so many sites out there we have tried to design the site where it appeals to not only the true “Lifestylers” but also couples or single females who are on the outside looking in. For some other than some sexxy talk in the bedroom or a few unspoken fantasies it has gone no further than that for them. We want to bring the new members in and not do a full assault on their senses where one if not both run for the hills.
Basically bring them into a venue where they can meet, greet , mix n mingle and develop their own boundaries.
Now to members who have been in the lifestyle for awhile. This may seem boring, slow paced or not their style. We bring in alot of new couples to every event who just want to see what its like, set their own pace and go from there. Some may not dip their toes in any of the lifestyle water ever and some may take their own time which could be weeks or months. But along the way alot of great friendships are made and if one is patient then who knows.
I would also like to point out that the word Lifestyle does not mean any certain style. Each person has their own version. Its a age old question and a age old difference of opinion. Some couples are soft swap and some couples are full swap. At the end of the evening these two are more than likely not going to agree on their boundaries. The same goes with couples where the female is bi or bi-curious. But in the end everyone is in the lifestyle. But again if you have been in the lifestyle for awhile you are not going to be on the same level as everyone else. You just have to be respectful of their limits.
With all of that being said. I never intended the DesirousParty site to be a copycat of the other Lifestyle sites. It was intended to be a information site. Over time at the requests of others I added profiles, email, im, chat and photo galleries. It started as a small project and grew with no real big floor plan of where we wanted to go. But one thing I was determined was to not copy everyone else. I do agree that the site has alot of new couples who are new to all of this. Some come into the events just to see if its what they have talked about in private and if it fits into their limits.
For the members of DesirousParty I would like to bring attention to the fact that there is a house party section. It is only available to members. You create and control your own party admin. You invite your own guests and also control the photo gallery for your event. Any party member can upload pics but you are the one who approves them.
Now for my last point which is Lastrada. We chose Lastrada because it was centrally located. Has a great Italian menu and they have a ultra lounge on the second level that they are not using except when they have a overflow of patrons. We are able to bring in our own dj’s, re-design the layout for every event if we choose and have some very nice hotels nearby. After 10pm the restaurant patrons are headed out the door and we have the place to ourselves. I do not plan on ever doing to risque of themes there. I vision it to be more of a mix n mingle, dance the night away venue. Which is why our Drop Dead Sexxy Saturdays is our signature event. I will leave the risque events for the other venues that DP hosts at. Lastrada is a great place to meet the other couples and if you so choose disappear to a nearby residence or hotel which quite alot of our patrons have been doing. Plus from the party photos you can tell what goes on there is the same thing as the other LS venues.
My main goal and vision is to keep our stie and events interesting, tantalizing and new. Something everyone who is in the lifestyle wants. I put alot of work into the site and events and I try my hardest to keep everyone happy. I understand I cannot always do that but I do my best.
Thanks to GentleNibbles for letting me give back my input.
David,
Wow! Thanks for taking the time for a very well thought out response.
Let us say! We are huge fans of DesirousParty! Why they may not be the cup of tea for some swingers who find the action a little slow, they are perfect for many couples who like a little less action and pressure.
In our expereience with Gentle Nibbles we speak with tons of newbie couples who are scared to death to go to a swingers club, but get excited about heading to a DP party at a swinger/neutral site. Most of them have a great time and find themselves much more open to trying new Lifestyle adventures furthur down the road.
Events like DP throws and “meet and greets” at vanilla bars are where the vanilla world meets the swinging world! Many couples, possibly including Mrs. G and myself, would still be toying with the idea of swinging if it was not for some vanilla friendly event.
So even if as a Swinger you don’t care for DP events, you should probably thank them for all the sexy, fresh, meat they bring into the Lifestyle!
~Mr. Gentlenibbles
I rarely comment to many of the things that are posted but do enjoy reading them. I find/notice that many “full swap” couples may have forgotten what it may of been like when entering the lifestyle. I can only speak for us. We find that going to the DP parties is not always for couples starting off (us) to find another couple to do anything with, but for getting out and relaxing and letting out some stress. We have found that there is never any pressure from anyone to do anything when we are at any of the DP parties. One thing we do enjoy from the parties such as “Drop Dead Sexy” is that the ladies can dress as sexy as they wish without guys drooling all over them like at regular clubs. New couples can take it as slow as they may wish and if they hit it off with anyone they can always go else where which is what is going to occur anyway. I find that the men at the DP parties are respectful and polite. This goes a long way for couples that are starting off. Men we have to remember that all women wish to be respected and worshipped. Most men and women that are in relationships wish that they could have what many in the lifestyle have. We have never felt the DP parties as a seen and be seen type parties but more of a get to know each other parties (we have made some good friendships). There is much to be learned when observing others and how they interact with others, especially the newbies to the lifestyle. If they are coming in scared or not knowing what to expect , something to harsh will make them run. Well that is but a thought from a couple that is starting off.
Jokar,
To start off with, “Welcome to the Lifestyle Hotties!!!”
We could not agree with you more! Very well said!
~Mr. Gentlenibbles
As rather neophyte in the”Lifestyle” (whatever that means) and as a professional couple wondering what this is al about and where we fit in, DP has provided us a non-threatening entree into your world. We like it, are not offended by the extremes but find that it is a bit confusing as to how to proceed. We have spent most of our careers growing a business and raising a family and now have the time to do the things that we gave up earlier in life while we focused on other priorities. We are both invigorated and excited by what we have stumbled onto and thank you visionaries who put so much time into what appears to us to be well thought-out and intelligent design for a fun-loving and diverse group of people.
We are a fit, health-conscious vivacious couple that find your group fun and beautiful. The foregoing discussion is both intellectual and informative.
We would like to be included, should you feel that we qualify, in your emails, parties, and other activities.
We had a great time NYE, had our own personal after party (so we missed some of you fun), maybe next time?
Thanks David for you insight and information. We would like to get to know all of you better in the future.
Davendi
@Davendi
We are glad you are enjoying the discussion. Houston is a great place (assuming you live in Houston) to Lifestyle “neophytes” as this place has a very large, diverse, and extremely active Lifestyle group of people.
There are lots of great resources here and on DP’s site that can keep you in the loop on parties as well give you a chance to get to know some of your fellow “Lifestylers” before the next itme you guys get out!
We look forward to seeing you out and about in the Swinger world and welcome to the Lifestyle!
~Mr. Gentlenibbles