Monogamous House Party
Okay, so monogamy and monogamous are not words you hear too often on a swinger website but listen to me here as we have been toying with an idea that was kicked around on a couple of comments on the site. It really is not a bad idea and maybe even a quite good one.
You see, one of the largest concerns new couples to the lifestyle face is how they will react in sexual situations. Many of these couples jump straight from never ever seeing another couple naked to swapping and doing the full monty! That is a pretty big stretch to make in the course of just one evening. A large amount of couples who will eventually become full swap or soft swap would have enjoyed the opportunity to just participate in having sex in the same room with another couple if the opportunity had allowed. But as many of you know, finding other couples who are not interested in swapping is pretty tough to do on a couple to couple basis.
So our thoughts are this, “What if there was a party for new couples that was a non-swap party?” All new couples could enjoy the hot tub, pool, the games of strip darts, strip backgammon, or whatever other sexually overtoned frivalities popped up without any fear, pressure, or concern of what may happen next. As the night progresses and partygoers became more comfortable, playtime could begin with everyone sticking to the sexy partner they came with.
It would appear that this would be a kinder and gentler way for new couples to get the true Lifestyle experience. It would be great in helping couples get use to to the atmosphere of sexual situations with more than one boner in the room. It may also help them expose any issues they have regarding the Lifestyle prior to actually swapping with another couple. Which can be a tragic mistake if a couple is not ready or has some underlying relationship issues that swinging can intensify.
Now experienced swingers may get a kick out of this article, because many full swap swingers won’t even go out with soft swap swingers because they feel they are wasting their time. Ms. Gentlenibbles and I are not of this belief, but have definitely heard this statement before. We, on the other hand, think it would be pretty damn sexy to see all those new couples enjoying each other.
It is quite humorous how skewed ones sexual reality becomes after entering the lifestyle. If you went to any workplace today and took a poll of all the gentlemen working there and asked them, “If they would like to watch another couple have sex?” The numbers would show a resounding yes. Yet some swingers won’t even waste time with couples who only like to give oral much less a couple who just wants to have monogamous sex in the same room.
So what are your thoughts? Good idea? Or bad? Would you come to the monogamous house party? Let us know what you think and give us a shout if you want to be on the guest list 
Vote in the poll below to see what others think!
One more question? So if everyone is naked and having sex with their own spouse and no swapping is involved… Do you think there is any chance we could get the church to approve of it?
To horny thoughts and happy hearts!
Mr. Gentlenibbles
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We wouldn’t consider ourselves Newbies or Veteran but we’d LOVE to go to a party like this? If only there were people in our area who would enjoy it as well.
The Wildcardz
wildcardz@gentlenibbles.com
P.S. Yay! Our first post since the competition began! Too bad we are ineligible.
While our lifestyle friends have many wonderful experiences to offer, it’s always the absolute best with each other because that’s where the love is!
@The Wildcardz
Considier yourself invited! Unfortunately, airfare is not included… but we could probably find you a place to stay!
@naughtynicecouple
Very well said! We can’t agree with you more, there is just something about having sex with someone you love and who knows exactly what you like!
Absolutely. Just let us know when and where and we will be there. We really enjoy being in a free, erotic atmosphere with other couples. We are not in to swapping at this point, but we love the freedom that the lifestyle oriented parties provide. This is a great idea. We would love to play games with other couples such as strip poker, etc. There is something really “electric” about being with couples that are new to swinging.
@Irvinefuncpl
You are absolutley right. There is alot of “electricity” when new swingers are involved. Yes, the potential for drama is higher but we were all new once!
We will let it be known when we plan one of these!
~Mr. Gentlenibbles
My husband and I are very new to this and would be interested in attending a non-swap party. Let us know!
@Shannon
Sounds like there are lots that would be interested! We might just have to get a little more serious about planning something!
Well, Mr. GentleNibbles, you guys have inspired us! Although we will never be full swap swingers, you have shown that there is a definate interest in a monogamous house party! So, I started a Meetup.com group here in Houston for “Not Quite Swingers” today. I am still hoping that we will be able to attend your monogamous house party, if we get invited
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Shannon
Shannon,
You Hottie!!! How cool is it that you guys are jumping in with both feet!!!
I searched for your group on Meetup and could not find it. Make sure and email us a link so we can check it out!
FYI- You may have a little trouble getting much exposure on meetup… a curse of living in a vanilla world!
Feel free to sign up for a free website at freeswingersblog.com and we can put a link to the website on here!
As far as being invited to our party? Only if we get invited to yours!
When is the first monogamous?
expectanly waiting
Davendi
My wife and I, over the last three years have taken three vacations to Desires in Mexico, went to a meet and greet and took two trips to an on premise club and haven’t swung. This brings a whole new meaning to going as fast in the lifestyle as the slowest person. I, the husband, would think it would be great to attend such a party for the “Not quite Swingers Yet” people like us. Unfortunately we live in the frozen tundra of New York so getting to Houston would be a bit of a hassel unless we decided to take a weeks vacation there.
@HughMcS
That is a good thing that you are taking your time! You guys are going at your speed and that will minimize any regrets and make the experience that much more enjoyable when it does happen. As far a taking a trip to Houston, we are not the best vacation spot…..but we sure know how to party!
~Mr. Gentlenibbles
My husband and I are interested in potentially building up to soft swap but will never be full swappers. I have been daunted, because I was worried it would be hard to find other couples who were interested in same room sex only unless and until I grew more adventurous. The monogamous house party sounds PERFECT!! I hope we can find one in our area. Whether we ever decide to soft swap or not, the house party sounds terrific. Would be very interested in hearing about any such parties in the Austin area.
@Sharon
From the response on this thread along with the poll and emails we have recieved there seems to be a significant intrerest in a “monogamous house party”. As we have many readers in Austin, I bet there are plenty of hotties interested they just need some to plan it!
Plus. Austin is not too far from Houston…..
Very true!
I fear my tiny apartment would not be a good match, at least until we befriend a few couples who’d be interested in a “monogamous apartment dinner party.” Any other Austinites out there up for hosting?? We’d absolutely be sure to make the drive to Houston if such an event should materialize!
In our opinion its not the theme of the party…..or club…..or anything. It’s about the people. No way for us to answer the question “would we attend?” based solely off of it being a monogamous house party. We’ve always found that no matter where you are its the people you interact with that make it fun. But, if the right mix of people were invited and coming, we’d certainly be interested in a party with these kinds of boundaries and fun to be had.
We’d also suggest newer couples that are unsure find themselves experienced swinger couple mentors. You can partner up with a couple to go with you to your first LS club experience, house party, or whatever you want to do. This couple can show you the ropes and be your safety net to keep your comfort level high. This will allow you to “experience the beach without getting in the water”.
Enjoy!
@WeDive
We agree with you on both points
Definitely, people make the party. The thought behind the post was less of the monogamous piece being the sole reason for coming, but to explore whether it would be a reason to decline. Which we have been happy to see the results seem as though in most cases it would not.
As far as finding more experienced swingers to help navigate the “Lifestyle waters”, that is a great way to go. The only problem I see for shy new swingers is finding the right couple to be that mentor.
As always thanks for the input!
~Mr. Gentlenibbles
How true it is that the people make for a good party, as well as the persons themselves making an effort to have a good time. One can make a boring party into something to remember if one wants. The idea is great “nibblers”, we think such a party would be great. There is sure to be excitment in the air at such a party especially for us newbies. I think that what makes for a good experince for all is for others to make newbies feel welcomed at such events. Now that we are starting to attend a few more parties/clubs, and we see what appear to be first timer, the Mrs nudges me to go up to them and introduce ourselves. We remember what it was like for us the first time we went to a club. Not that we did not enjoy it but not knowing anyone made it a bit uncomfortable. So to all veterans a “welcome” and “hello” can go a long way in making newbies feel more at ease.
@JoKar,
We had the exact same experience our first time at a club, we had a great couple walk up and said “This is your first time, isn’t it”. Then they sat their answering questions and talking to us for the next hour or so! It played a big role in how comfortable we were that night with coming back!
We Luv the idea. In fact we plan on using this idea at one of our future parties in the near future. You kids are a true landfill of useful information. We LUV you guys, you’re HOT
Hey Hotties,
Make sure and let us know how it goes! And thanks for calling us a HOT landfill!
~thenibblers
I like this idea. Where was a party like this when my wife and I got started in the Lifestyle? Sounds like the perfect way to explore your boundaries and comfort limits a step at a time.
Hell, I was so nervous the first time I played with my own wife at a party that I could barely get it up! We attributed a lot of that to the pressure of semi-public sex at our first hotel suite meet and greet party
I’m glad I found this website!
Hey Hubman,
We are glad you found this website too!
I tell you we have had so much positive feedback on this idea, it is crazy! We would have loved to gone to one when we first started as well!
Thanks for the comment and keep in touch!
~Mr. and Mrs. Gentlenibbles
Wow! This got a lot of replies. This is definitely something we’d be interested in. The first time we dipped our toe in the lifestyle water, we came across a really pushy male. Very pushy. Ruined the night and the experience, and pushed us both away from any lifestyle events. That was a little over a year ago, and we’ve decided to dip the toe in again and give it another shot. What we’re both really excited about is just being in a sexually charged, safe, open, non-”sleazy” atmosphere more than swinging. At least now. We both think with the right people, this kind of party would be GREAT!
Look for us to be posting more about this soon! We have had so many positive replies we think we should run with it! We are probably going to try and schedule a meet and greet first to let people get acquainted.
we are so charged waiting on this house party we can hardly stand it…
let us know as soon as one is planned
Davendi
this is exactly what we are looking for! we can cum to houston or austin so let us know when it is!
We’re not necessarily VETERANS, but we’re definitely not newbies either…We would LOVE to come to something like this!! Please send us an invite, we’ll for sure come!
-R&S
hot19n25
@hot19n25
Hey hotties, You guys are definitely on the must invite list!!!
Mr. Gentlenibbles
When and where! I would totally go! Sex in the presence of others is the biggest turn on and the no swap presssure would be the icing on the cake! We are new and this would be the perfect thing for my nervous hubby!
WHOLE LOTTA TALK AND NOT ENOUGH ACTION…WHEN, WHERE, WHO?
really, this house party is a great idea and can anyone tell me where and when again this type of house parties are going to arranged.Me and my partner are ready to do any type of swap sex.
@Davendi
Hey Hotties, Mrs. G has officially been in charge on getting the planning on this thing started.
We would definitely be interested in attending a party like this as well. We like the no swap pressure. My husband and I are serious newbies. We don’t even understand the terminology yet! I also think the mentor for newbies sounds like a good idea.
Women can wear high heels or leather accessories to raise the pulse of men swingers. They should make sure that the dress should gel with the adult environment at the swinger club. You can also wear attractive bikini or thongs to seduce your men.
Yes, Would truly enjoy the experience.
We’re a new couple from Canada so we wouldn’t be able to come to Houston but what a fantastic fucking idea! We have been looking for something like this for months but haven’t been able to find couples that want the same thing. It feels like we’re stuck in a void between vanilla and swinger. We feel so alone! *LOL*
shiraz,
We wish you luck!
We would love to hear more about the Lifestyle in Canada. Please give us some updates as you guys get your feet wet!
Mr. G
new2tx,
Mentor huh? Maybe a “swinging coach” Now that sounds like a fun job!
Can we please publish a get-together party date? Looks like many are interested.
Hey Sexy People….
We just wanted to update you that we have set a date for the first ever Monogamous House Party.
Click Below for details:
http://www.gentlenibbles.com/2009/12/04/monogamous-house-party-date-set/
See you sexy people there!
Mr. and Mrs. Gentlenibbles