Opening Up the Back Door to your Partner

The Nibblers would like to apologize for the dry spell lately, but we are back!!  We are happy to publish a note from some of our sexy guest authors. . . Squeak of Pip and Squeak.  Be sure to let her know if you love her article by leaving a comment!

Anal sex has always been off limits in my book . . . until recently! And by recently, I mean within the last year or so. I had a few girlfriends that I would hear talking about it, but I just could never understand how, why or what was so sexual about it.  I think sometimes, women just endure it to please their husbands, which I tried, but just could not do.

There were instances when I experienced a hint of the sensations.  I liked it when my husband and I would have sex missionary style and he would put pressure on my coccxy bone (the bone in your butt at the end of your spine). But if my hubby ever tried or asked about anal sex, it was automatic tension.  I dreaded it and had no desire to try it.  I think it was a mental block more than anything.  I eventually got to where it did not bother me as much to let him rub his penis back there, but still, absolutely no penetration.

While we were messing around trying new positions one morning, he sat up against the headboard of the bed and I laid on a pillow in front of him on my back with my legs straddling him.  I was pleasing myself with a vibrator and he began playing around “at the back door.”  It actually felt kinda good for me, so we started experimenting with that.  He was so patient and understanding.  Guys need to understand that anal sex is a delicate and learned process for some women!  It takes time, lots of lube and relaxation!! Did I metion relaxation?   For me, it is more about the pressure, not always the in-and-out that guys prefer.  My secret is clitoral stimulation at the same time!

Another good starting point that we tried just this past week is anal stimulation with his finger while he was eating me out.  The finger is not quite a large as a penis yet gives the same type of stimulation and may help her ease into the idea. 

Timing is key.  There are times when it feels better than others, which is where communication comes into play.  The woman has to let her partner know how she feels.  Sometimes when it feels really good, I cannot help but let out loud, orgasmic sounds – the last time, I almost woke up the neighbors!  Although, if it is not feeling good, stop and try again some other time.  And while we are talking about timing, I can have orgasms time and time again when having anal sex, whereas I am ususally a one-orgasm girl!

Also, remember to never put things (whether it be a penis, vibrator or fingers) in her vagina after they have been inserted into the anus because of the risk of bacterial infections. 

We tried Anal Ease, a lubricant especially for anal sex, but I did not care for that. It made everything too numb.  I could not feel anything, which some women may prefer!  It was a really weird sensation. Our next venture will be a butt plug, which by the way needs a new name!  It sounds so non-sensual and unattractive.  Very misleading.

We would really like to hear some stories from the GentleNibbles readers about what works for them or what does not work!  We are always open to try new things, so post away!

Happy Posting. . . Squeak