Swinger Says What? What are my chances?

Hello again everyone!  Hope everyone is enjoying the redesign of the site.  If you like it, be sure and leave Mr. Gentlenibbles a comment.  He worked very hard on it, although I have to say he is getting way to good at it!  Like many other things he is really good at, practice has made him near perfect.

Well, on to today’s swinger says what. . .we have received an e-mail from a recently single female inquiring about a situation in the lifestyle.  Here is the e-mail:

I am a recently single beautiful BBW. I really like the idea of swinging….should I go out on a limb and head to a club? What are my chances and are there many single women at a swingers club?

Thanks,
Mandy

Mandy, as you know, single females are very unique in the lifestyle, and as you probably know, they are often referred to as “unicorns.”  Some couples search out single females rather than couples, and some couples search out BBW, whereas some do not.  It is all about preference and what the couple’s interests and fantasies are.  Reading profiles on a social networking site will help you figure out what most couples are looking for in the lifestyle.  Most couples are very up front about their expectations.

One suggestion would be to search out a group on a networking site that is focused on interests in BBW.  If you don’t find a group, maybe you should start one!

Clubs are definitely a great place to meet people.  I would suggest perusing  the RSVP list beforehand to scope out the crowd.  Not everyone will show and some show who do not RSVP, but you can get a good sample of the crowd.  Maybe plan to meet up with another single female, if you are uncomfortable.  Of course, single females get all the perks when going to swinger clubs. . .you usually get in at a very reduced rate or free!  

Another possibility is to chat with a couple before you go and plan to meet them there.  A club is a much more open environment as opposed to meeting a couple for dinner.  There is much less pressure, and if the chemistry is not mixing, there are other people to meet and hang out with or you can easily leave without feeling pressured.

There are definitely single females at the clubs, but I cannot lie, they are the minority.  As far as chances, it just depends on the crowd.  Don’t rush into anything or try to make something click.  We always go to the clubs with no expectations, so when the chemistry does click with someone, it makes it all the more fun.  At the very least, swinger clubs are just fun places to party.  Mr. Gentlenibbles and I have a hard time at vanilla clubs now because we are used to great music and hanging out with fun, sexy people!

There is always room for anyone who wants to be involved in the lifestyle.  It may take you some time to find a group that you are comfortable hanging around, but they are out there.

As always, we welcome comments from our readers because we are not experts!  Are there any other BBW out there who have experienced the clubs and could provide advice for Mandy? 

Best of Luck
~ Mrs. Gentlenibbles