Swinger Says What? We’ve felt so silly!

We are receiving lots of “Swinger Says What” inquiries, and we are answering them as quickly as possible!  If you’ve submitted one, keep checking, we promise we will get to you!  Here is the question for this week:

We are new to this and have been with two couples so far. Both times we have ended up talking and talking for hours trying to find the perfcct moment to get things going. We’ve felt so silly! We all know why we’re there (one time in their hotel room, another in a rented house, alone), we met to have sex (although both times it was a no pressure situation) we spoke online for weeks beforehand. We’d love to know  some tips ands tricks to get things going. We know each other very well and can tell my looks what the other is thinking, but any other tips and ideas would be great!

Great topic this week!  This was actually a very engaging topic of discussion at Swingfest in 2008, and the session was recorded (swingercast.com, Season 3, episode 58).  Don’t feel like you are the only ones because you are definitely not! 

Everyone who has experience in swinging has probably been in this situation at least once.  Be sure and listen to the live discussion that we had at Swingfest, but here is a top 10 list of ideas for you to “nibble” on:

1.  A little alcohol to ease any inhibitions…not too much though because it can definitely ruin any ambitions!!

2. The key game – this is an old fashioned swinger game.  When everyone comes in the door, they put their keys in a hat or bowl.  The keys are drawn to match up couples.  This would definitely be a game to be played in a setting where everyone was comfortable with everyone present!

3.  Assign the title of DC (Designated Collector) to one person for the evening.  This person’s job will be to collect clothing from everyone, whether it be tops from the girls or pants from the guys or everything from everyone at a designated time! 

4.  Begin by encouraging the women to kiss!  Us women can get some hotness fired up!

5.  Games – strip poker (one of our favs), strip darts, naked Rock Band (another fav), naked Twister…oh the possibilities!

6.  Lingerie /pajama party – you’re halfway to naked!

7.  If you live close to another couple, meet unexpectedly at the heat of a hot chat session! (Been there, done that! It’s HOT stuff!)

8.  Hot tubbing or swimming pool fun….enough said!

9.  Switch partners while sitting around and having conversations so you can flirt, rub, kiss!

10.  And of course, Mr. G’s favorite…..take sexy pictures!!!  And lots of them, and send them to us!  Just kidding!

There should be lots of feedback on this topic!  Please leave a comment below and let us know what kinds of things have worked for you and your spouse and what kinds of things have been total stall tactics!

As always, best of luck. . .
~Mrs. Gentlenibbles