Are We There Yet – To Cum or Not to Cum (Poll Below)

I was just doing some browsing over at the swinger’s forums on Kasidie and was intrigued by a poll about a topic I don’t believe we have covered here before and thought it may make for an interesting article and new poll.

The question is:

Ladies, how long on average do you expect or want your partner to engage in sex when you play?

I was quite surprised by the results of the poll on Kaside as the majority of women had voted for 10 to 20 minutes.  My thoughts would lead me to think it would be a time longer than that, as from the blessed moment of my first erection I started learning the alphabet backwards to keep from cumming to quick.

Side Note:  Ask any of my friends, now by the age of 37 I can say it from back to front in a matter of seconds making for a great bar trick.

I think the majority of men would think the same as me, which is more than twenty minutes is probably what is expected of them on most sexual outings.

…then I started thinking about this a little more. (I know….very dangerous)

I actually have had more experiences where taking too long was a problem than cumming to quick.  Maybe those voters are on to something.

I remember a specific instance at Swingfest a couple of years ago when we were playing with a new couple we had met.  My sexy partner and I had been going at it for quite awhile and though she seemed to be enjoying herself, I had not heard a climax and assumed she was still searching for her orgasm.  I continued penetrating her while trying different speed and pressure to see if I could notice what would bring her closer to climax.  The whole time I was  having to resort to saying that damn alphabet every few minutes to keep all my appendages in the necessary format!

After awhile, she looks at me with the cutest smile and says, “I’m sorry I don’t think I can go anymore I get sore after awhile.”  The poor thing had already had a couple of orgasms, albeit very quiet orgasms evidently.  She was even sweet enough to ask me what she could do to help me get off, I chuckled and said, “You had me at hello” and came like a teenager at a porn convention!

Mrs. Gentlenibbles has had similar experiences being miserable the day after playing from a partner who was a little too rough for a lot to long.  This all makes me wonder, in the words of Little Red Riding Hood (kind of), “How long is just right?”

Now obviously, that is a loaded question for guys because each one of you gorgeous mounds of sexy female parts have your own individual needs and wants making  communication (as always) the key.  So before voting in the poll below, here are a few tips both sexes can use to avoid this embarrassing swinging snafu:

• Ladies, whether it is a whisper in the ear or you are shouting from the rooftops let your partner know when you cum and if you are done for the night look him in the eye, lick your lips, and tell him, “I want to see you cum all over my tits!”  Ok, so maybe that is a bit much for some of you but letting your partner know it is OK to ejaculate is a great way to make sure both of you are on the same page!
• Guys, foreplay ranks very high in a woman’s sexual encounter.  If you are going straight to sex, her “huhu” ain’t quite gonna be ready for the “haha” and will most likely mean she is not going to be in for the marathon haul!  Take your time and enjoy her and she may just have a couple of orgasms before the whole shindig really gets under way
• Ladies and gentlemen, don’t be afraid to talk.  Unless your into sex in a bathtub of rattlesnakes it is perfectly OK to tell you partner what you like and don’t like.

Ladies, please vote in the Poll below to let us know your average or preferred time on the “boink” clock.