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Swinger Says What – Whats A Girl to Do?

Mr. GentleNibbles — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 04:34:26 +0000

Today’s question comes from a young female with a unexpected problem.

Read on.

Im a 23 year old woman (actively bi-sexual for the past 6 years) who was introduced to swinging by a former partner and would like to continue in the lifestyle as a single. Trouble is, Im getting the feeling that a lot of the couples I’m interested in meeting and playing with have the attitude that, as a
younger single woman, I must want something more than just fun, friendship and good sex. Nothing could be further from the truth and I
cant see what I’m doing that might give anyone that impression. As an artist (painter and sculptor) I enjoy the ability to express myself
sexually in all the different combinations swinging makes possible.

However, I want to be able to do that as a single.(...)
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The Rules of Swinging – Swinger Says What?

Mr. GentleNibbles — Wed, 12 Jan 2011 22:35:59 +0000

Recently a young couple wrote to us asking for some help understanding the rules and categories of swinging. In reality it is not that complicated and every couple kind of does their own thing.

The unfortunate circumstance for newbies is when you are just starting out in the world of swinging, the worry about offending someone while being naked with them can be pretty daunting and keep a couple from moving forward. Thus today we are going to discuss the basics of swinging etiquette and guidelines.

The couples email read as follows:(...)
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Hair Down There? – Swingers Says What

Mr. GentleNibbles — Mon, 03 Jan 2011 20:00:14 +0000

One of our New Years Resolutions here at Gentle Nibbles was to do a better job of answering the tons of questions we get regularly from readers regarding the Lifestyle and its intricacies.

So as with all resolutions we will at least start off trying with a question from a reader regarding a pubic hair dilemma.(...)
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To Bi or Not to Bi – That is the Swingers Question?

Mr. GentleNibbles — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 19:11:18 +0000

Today’s Swingers Says What article is answering a question from a reader regarding bisexuality and the Lifestyle. This is a question that comes up quite often and is worth taking the time to answer. So let’s begin with the Question…

Hi there, I’m the male half of a newly curious couple. I’ve noticed on several swingers’ blogs and elsewhere that there seems to be a frequently occurring attribute among swingers:

The female is bi or bi-nearly (sorry, don’t know the correct term). As truly awesome as that probably is, it doesn’t necessarily reflect our situation. My questions are

1) How prevalent is female bisexuality in the lifestyle? and

2) Would it become a noticeable setback for us if my wife is not?

(...)
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What if Ward and June Cleaver Were Swingers – Honesty

Mr. GentleNibbles — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 22:37:15 +0000

I had a random thought the other day. I have those quite often and am not totally sure if that is a good or bad thing. Nonetheless, my thought was how vastly the Lifestyle has improved Mrs. Gentlenibbles and my sex life. And by Mrs. Gentlenibbles and I, I mean just the sex between us at home alone like Ward and June Cleaver would have done it.

What if Ward and June Cleaver were swingers? They were the iconic moral American (fictitious) family. But what are some lessons they could have learned from the perverts next door, besides maybe pushing their beds together which no doubt would lead to a little more action.

Before entering the Lifestyle we had a good sex life, probably a great sex life if you measure it by “Vanilla” means, but it pales in comparison to the intensity of what we have on a regular basis since first sharing that Hot Tub with a couple of hotties three years ago and beginning our “Swinging” journey.

So I was thinking to myself, “Self, what made the change? What about the Lifestyle outside our private bedroom made things so great inside the bedroom?” Obviously, the fulfilment of fantasies plays a huge role on an ongoing basis which contributes to the excitement and intensity, but there are plenty of other factors that have made our bedroom grow from a “Hell Yeah” to a “HOLY SH*T, Bow chica bow yah”.(...)
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Swinger Says What? – Twenty Somethings Seeking?

Mr. GentleNibbles — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 02:55:24 +0000

Today we have another “Swingers Says What”, submitted by some sexy twenty-somethings looking to find swingers in their age range. Again our sexy friends the Wildcardz came up with some great advice for these guys. Here is the Question:

We are a newly married couple who
are starting to venture into the lifestyle. We are still in college and were wondering if there were any sites or clubs geared more toward people in their 20′s. Also what is the best way to meet people closer to our age group

As swinging couples in our 20’s we are certainly the minority. Most couples in the lifestyle are older then we are. And it goes to reason. As you pointed out most people in their 20’s are still in school, focusing on getting their career established, and/or just now finding themselves a partner that they would consider marrying or having a long term relationship with. They have yet to establish this relationship enough to have the trust and communication levels required to successfully navigate the lifestyle. However that’s not to say that us 20-something swingers aren’t out there.(...)
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Swingers Says What? – The Separate Room Dilemma

Wildcardz — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 23:50:36 +0000

This week our sexy friends “The Wildcardz” are answering a question we have received from one of our readers.

The question is:

My boyfriend and I are thinking
about trying the swinger lifestyle. I think that I can do this but
there is this other thing that he wants as well and I’m not sure that
I agree with it.

I wanted to compromise and only do these things with
other couples and do them together but he says that he wants to
sometimes do them alone with other girls and that I can do it alone
with other guys but of course I will have to agree with his girl that
he chose and he will have to agree with my guy.

I just don’t understand, if he points out a girl that he likes and asks me if he
can have sex with her then why would he have to do it without me being
there? This is something that kind of gets to me a little bit. He says
it’s about trust and knowing that he’ll always be coming home to me,

I’ll always know where he is, he’ll always tell me first, and if I
need anything he’ll drop whatever he’s doing and come right home. What
are your thoughts on this?

(...)
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Observe. Report. Act.

Mrs. Gentlenibbles — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 04:35:06 +0000

Recent conversations with other couples in the lifestyle have entrigued us with a new concept. . . Observe, Report, Act. Many couples may be curious or interested about the lifestyle, but just like all of us, do not know what to expect. Of course, our blog is meant to provide as much information as possible to new swingers and many of our articles offer advice on how to talk to your spouse about your thoughts on entering the lifestyle, do’s and don’ts while in the lifestyle and experiences in the lifestyle, but how did we all get there?

A few couples we have talked to recently started out slowly in the lifestyle by first hanging out with other lifestylers, but not necessarily playing or fully participating in activities to ensure that the lifestyle was what they were actually looking for and to know what they were getting into. Part of setting boundaries and rules is communcating each others desires and fantasies when you talk about the lifestyle, but what if you do not know what kinds of things to expect?(...)
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Some Common New Swinger Questions and Answers

Mr. GentleNibbles — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 22:13:39 +0000

Mrs. Gentlenibbles and I have been pretty bad lately about checking the “Ask a Swinger” mailbag, where we try to answer questions from our readers regarding the Lifestyle.

So in an effort to make up for that faux-paux we are going to take this time to answer a few questions in the bag that have grabbed our eye.

So here are a few:(...)
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Swinger Says What? We’ve felt so silly!

Mrs. Gentlenibbles — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 01:16:15 +0000

Questions

We are receiving lots of “Swinger Says What” inquiries, and we are answering them as quickly as possible! If you’ve submitted one, keep checking, we promise we will get to you! Here is the question for this week:

We are new to this and have been with two couples so far. Both times we have ended up talking and talking for hours trying to find the perfcct moment to get things going. We’ve felt so silly! (...)
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