A Few Simple Questions - Ask Yourselves the Five W’s

If you are new to swinging and looking for information the most common advice you will get from seasoned veterans as well as other newbies is talk, talk, talk. On occasion the advisor will give you a suggestion of one or two topics to discuss with your partner. However in our experience no two couples have suggested the same topics.

So what should there be a swinger checklist? “If you can answer these questions correctly then you can be a swinger.” The thought is almost laughable. Just like no two couples suggest the same discussion topics no two couples swing the same way or have the same guidelines. Because as Dossie and Catherine say in “The Ethical Slut” No two relationships are the same. Read more

Willy Wonka’s Advice for Swingers

As a child I remember reading Charlie and the Chocolate Factory by Ronald Dahl.  The book that inspired the two movies starring Gene Wilder, and now Johnny Depp.   Even as a young child, I recall being able to plainly grasp one of the underlying central themes of the novel.  That theme being, “Too much of a good thing can be bad!”

Chocolate is good…
Chocolate castles, rivers, etc…

Now you have potential for trouble!  So what does this have to do with Swinging?  Other than the fact “Willy Wonka” kind of sounds like a sexual term, It is a really good idea for couples to periodically step back from all the fun and excitement they are having in the Lifestyle and take some time to rest, relax, and ensure both husband and wife are on the same page! Read more

What if We Are Not That Sexy? - Swinger Says What?

This “Swinger Says What?” post comes to us from an Arizona couple and their question is regarding looks and the Lifestyle.  They sent us this email a couple of weeks ago.

Mr. and Mrs. Gentlenibbles,

Let us begin by saying “THANKS”. As very new swingers, your website has been helpful to us in providing answers to many questions.  

We are writing this letter to ask you a question for one of your “Swinger Say’s What?” posts.  Your thoughts and opinions on this would be appreciated.

Our question is this, “What is it like for average or even less than average looking couples when trying to find a couple to play with?”  We don’t consider ourselves ugly, but when looking at some of the profiles on SDC we realize we are not as attractive as many of the couples.

We are pretty comfortable with our bodies and appearance, but that does not mean we will enjoy being rejected over and over.  Are we wasting our time, or worse setting ourselves up for disappointment?

Thanks,

BJ and Marie
Arizona

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