New Swinger Advice - archives

It’s All in the Details

Have you ever been pulled over and the (very sexy) cop asked to see some “ID” while shining a flashlight at your crotch.  Or How about this have you ever been handcuffed to five different people in one night?  We can say with BIG smiles... 

Calling All Newbies - A New Swingers Meet and Greet

A couple of weeks ago we announced the “Houston Invasion Party” with couples from all over Texas invading Houston on April 25th, 2009 for one night making it one of the largest swinging events in the state this year!!! The party is definitely... 

Sorry Agent Your Cover Has Been Blown

Let me lay the scene for you.  You’re headed to a local swinger’s party.  You’ve prepped all week. Buying costumes, finding a sitter, booking your hotel room, and trimming all unnecessary body hair.  You don your trench coats and head... 

Monogamous House Party

Okay, so monogamy and monogamous are not words you hear too often on a swinger website but listen to me here as we have been toying with an idea that was kicked around on a couple of comments on the site. It really is not a bad idea and maybe even... 

From Fantasy to Sextastic Swinger Reality - Swinger Says What?

One of the most common questions we receive in our Ask a Swinger mailbox is “How do I convince my wife to swing” or some query very similar.  As a matter of fact, we have received three letters on that specific topic just in the last couple... 

Going Out On a Limb (Part Two) - Swinger Says What?

A few weeks ago we answered a letter from a young couple who has been treading into the swinging waters with some very good friends.  We had asked the couple to let us know how things progress and they dropped us a note last week to do just that.  So... 

Swinger Etiquette - Swinger Says What?

Today’s post is a great one dealing with one of the number one concerns and struggles new swingers face when first dipping their toes in the Lifestyle waters.  A couple new to swinging wrote us with the following question regarding how to dish... 

Going out on a Limb - Swinger Says What?

A very common topic we receive questions about here at Gentle Nibbles refers to the viability of mixing Lifestyle activities with good friends from the outside “vanilla” world.  Today’s “Swingers Says What” question takes... 

How Could We Forget How?

When it comes to swingers, How? is a question that can be perceived in at least 3 ways.  “How do I convince my partner to try swinging?” or “How do we get the play started?” or “How is she able to put her feet there while... 

What if I Can’t Get and Erection? - Swinger Says What?

If I was to open my Encyclopedia Britannica and open it to the swinger’s section, I would find that one of the most asked questions by new swingers goes something like this, “What do I do if I have trouble getting a hard on?  Is this common? What... 

Selecting a Sextastic Swinger Themed Costume for Halloween

Well, it’s that time of year again! One of our favorite times of year as swingers, and not just because of the cooler weather, jack-o-lanterns and earlier sunsets. . . if you haven’t figured it out by now, we in the lifestyle love to dress up! We... 

A Few Simple Questions - Ask Yourselves the Five W’s

If you are new to swinging and looking for information the most common advice you will get from seasoned veterans as well as other newbies is talk, talk, talk. On occasion the advisor will give you a suggestion of one or two topics to discuss with your... 

Willy Wonka’s Advice for Swingers

As a child I remember reading Charlie and the Chocolate Factory by Ronald Dahl.  The book that inspired the two movies starring Gene Wilder, and now Johnny Depp.   Even as a young child, I recall being able to plainly grasp one of the underlying central... 

What if We Are Not That Sexy? - Swinger Says What?

This “Swinger Says What?” post comes to us from an Arizona couple and their question is regarding looks and the Lifestyle.  They sent us this email a couple of weeks ago. Mr. and Mrs. Gentlenibbles, Let us begin by saying “THANKS”.... 

Personality - The Swinging “It” Factor

The science of sexual attraction is a complex beast well above my comprehension, but I do know this.  Sexual attraction inside the Lifestyle and outside the Lifestyle is very different.  Sexual compatability is the name of the game in the Lifestyle. ... 

Eat, Sex, Sleep and Repeat

Hotel Reservations - check Airline Reservations - check Sexy clothes in the suitcase - check Swingfest Tickets - check Sleep Deprivation - Leave it at home!!! In preparation of Swingfest, Mr. G and I wanted to share some advice that we learned this past... 

Swinger Says What? - Condoms are Sexy

Today’s post is the the first and debut post of our ”Swinger Says What” series that we introduced in an earlier post. The question below is from MB, one of our favorite and regular readers. Here is his question. Hey Nibblers, First... 

Holy Crap… Look At All the Puppies!

Last week we wrote a post entitled Holy Crap… We Spotted a Unicorn!.  This post talked about the unique situation of single females in the Lifestyle and their status as near royalty due to their elusiveness.  This post, on the other hand, is going... 

Excuse Me…. Swinger Says What???

Today at Gentle Nibbles we would like to open ourselves up to the World, both vanilla and swinger.  We are sending out a open request for any questions you would have for us.  We are getting ready to debut a new series here on Gentle Nibbles we are... 

New Swingers, Parking Lots, and Butterflies

It has often been said that for new swingers, the toughest part of the journey is getting themselves from the parking lot to the front door of a swingers club. There have been many a couple who made it to the parking lot of the club with every intention... 

Drama: The Art of Making Sexy Time Not So Sexy!

In the Lifestyle, unlike the vanilla world the big “D” word is not Divorce, but rather Drama!  Drama is defined by Merriam Webster as: a state, situation, or series of events involving interesting or intense conflict of forces There is nothing... 

Nothing Like Candy, Roses, and a Swing Club to Improve a Marriage

A first trip to a lifestle club can be a very nerve inducing expereince.  Many a couple has made it all the way to a parking lot, only to turn around and go home.  Others may actually make it into the club, but are so worked up they set them selves... 

Tips for Better Pictures - Swinger Pics Part Two

(This post is a continuation of this previous post on profile pics for new swingers on swinger websites such as CouplesTouch.com and Lifestylelounge.com.) A couple of days ago, we discussed some of the things to watch out for when it comes to putting... 

A Picture is Worth a Thousand Genatalia -The Art of Profile Pics

As a couple new to the “Swinging Scene”, your profile picture will play a very important role in the amount of condoms you purchase in your swinging career.  Several years ago, my wife and I were trying to sell a vehicle.  We had the vehicle... 

Party of Four, Your Table is Ready

Today we are extremely excited to bring a great post from a very special guest author on Gentle Nibbles.  John from Swingercast has given some great advice for our readers.  For those of you that listen to Swingercast, you are used to hearing John’s... 

Six Things Your Mother Taught You About Swinging! - Part 2

As promised a couple of days ago here are the last three lessons your Mother taught you about swinging!  Life is what you make of it Just like the wallflowers at your high school prom, if you don’t get out there, mingle, and get to know some... 

Six Things Your Mother Taught You About Swinging!

Listening to the advice your parents gave you growing up, could really help you as a swinger.  Whether we liked it or not, is was good advice for getting us through life then and is still good advice for getting us through the lifestyle now!  Let’s... 

This is No Longer Our Little Secret

The lights dim down upon the crowd and a spotlight suddenly illuminates the glorious silk curtain flowing across the stage.  As the curtain slowly rises you hear a deep voice begin to say…… Today is another special day, as Gentle Nibbles... 

Another Great Website You Should Check Out

(Update - As  of July 19, 2008, it appears that coupledoingit is no longer an active website) We have found another great website that is a good resource for New Swingers trying to navigate the sexy lifestyle highway.  The website is coupledoingit.com. ... 

Considering a Brazilian Wax? - “For the Ladies” by Mrs. Gentlenibbles

 This is post number four in the FTL(For the Ladies) a series of tips and advice for the ladies by Mrs. Genltenibbles.   If you’re considering waxing, my advice is go for it - whether you start out with a bikini wax or go for the Brazilian! Until... 

Full Swap versus Soft Swap

A famous writer once penned these famous words that would survive the test of history, “To penetrate or not to penetrate, that is the question.” …or something like that. There is a really good chance that within the first seventeen and... 

Scentsational -”For the Ladies” by Mrs. Gentlenibbles

This is post number three in the FTL(For the Ladies) a series of tips and advice for the ladies by Mrs. Genltenibbles.  Have you ever been walking down the street and a scent triggered an old memory? Or smelled someone’s perfume or cologne and... 

What to wear? What to wear! -”For the Ladies” by Mrs. G

This is post number two in the FTL(For the Ladies) a series of tips and advice for the ladies by Mrs. Genltenibbles.  Well, if you’re anything like me, going to a lifestyle club for the first time was a little nerve-racking!  I had no idea... 

You’re Beautiful! -”For the Ladies” by Mrs. Gentlenibbles

Hey ladies, this post is for you.  It is the first post in a series I will be doing for the blog to help all those nervous ladies out there considering getting into the lifestyle.  In this series I will try to offer some advice and commentary for us... 

Large and In Charge; A Heavier Look at Swinging

I was over surfing some swinger’s forums and came upon a topic that I see mentioned relatively frequently on forums and other discussion platforms.  The topic of being overweight and swinging, and the compatibility of the two.  I firmly believe... 

The “Laws of Physics” as They Pertain to Swinging

In a recent post, I jokingly made a reference to the “Laws of Physics of Swinging” in an attempt to point out one of the common small misconceptions new swingers sometimes have.  For many beginners in the lifestyle, the first few months... 

New Swingers Guide: Part Three

(This post is a follow up post to New Swingers Guide: Part Two) Do you smell that?  It is the smell of something exciting in the air.  You have done plenty of research, an incredible amount of talking between you and your spouse, and you have even been... 

Swinger Dictionary

Since this week postings have really been focusing on New Swingers and their introduction to the lifestyle, I thought it would be a good idea to introduce some of the terminology used in the community.  Some of the vocabulary may be graphic and a little... 

New Swingers Guide: Part Two

(This post is a follow up post to New Swingers Guide: Part One) So you have done your research, been all over the Internet, and hopefully at least brushed your teeth. You are ready to get out in this erotic new world and meet some other lifestylers. Thats... 

New Swingers Guide: Part One

So you and your spouse have mentioned the big “S’” word to each other and are ready to take a first step.  The “S” word I refer to is swinging for those of you who may have had a few margaritas before sitting down at the...