New Swingers Guide: Part Two

(This post is a follow up post to New Swingers Guide: Part One)

So you have done your research, been all over the Internet, and hopefully at least brushed your teeth. You are ready to get out in this erotic new world and meet some other lifestylers. Thats great! Where do we go from here?

In order to meet other lifestylers, you need to find some places to interact with us. It is probably in your best interest for now, to choose a place where you and your spouse will be comfortable and not feel pressure. There is no opportunity for lower pressure than being in your underwear, drinking a glass of wine or cold beer, and once again sitting in front of your computer. Yes, one of the best places for new and veteran swingers alike to interact, do some window shopping, and get to know each other a little bit is online.

The wonders of modern technology have made it possible to literally meet hundreds, or in large cities thousands of other couples with a few mouse clicks. There are several websites out there that act as “dating” websites for swingers. What is great, is that some of them have pretty Read more

New Swingers Guide: Part One

So you and your spouse have mentioned the big “S’” word to each other and are ready to take a first step.  The “S” word I refer to is swinging for those of you who may have had a few margaritas before sitting down at the computer tonight.  So what is that first step?  Before taking that step, it is probably a good idea to establish some ground rules.

Take things slow: 

The first thing I would suggest for anyone venturing into this world is make all of these steps at first “baby” steps.  It can be extremely exciting for both of you at the beginning and it is pretty easy to get caught up in the moment.  It is important that both of you are on the same page, and by definition that page should not be any further up the play-book then either of you are ready for.  The problem is there are many couples out there who have picture perfect relationships, no insecurities, and are dead set on becoming a swinger.  Then the clothes come off and…  This does not happen a whole lot, but it does happen.  The best way to avoid this is to take things slow.

Talk, then talk, and then talk about it:

The best way to ensure you don’t cross a boundary your spouse thought was in place, or flirt with that couple that they can’t stand is by discussing all of these things long before they matter.  It should be a given, but if you are considering entering the lifestyle, there is probably no subject too taboo for you to discuss with each other.  Guys, if you are still hiding your porn collection from your wife in an old shoe box, you are probably not really talking at the comfort level you want to be at.

Have a healthy marriage that has been in that state for awhile:

This point could be argued, and might be considered optional.  There are couples out there that are only dating, some that are not even dating but play together as Read more

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