New Swingers Guide: Part Three

(This post is a follow up post to New Swingers Guide: Part Two)

Do you smell that?  It is the smell of something exciting in the air.  You have done plenty of research, an incredible amount of talking between you and your spouse, and you have even been flirting and learning about the lifestyle in your community.  Now you are ready to take the “big” step and get away from the mouse and keyboard to begin interacting with your fellow “swingers” in the flesh.  Before we run out the door, let’s discuss a few things about this special occasion.

Every couple had butterflies on their first night, and many (including Mrs. Gentlenibbles and I) still get a few when we go out.  To be honest, being a little nervous is a good thing, it means excitement is ahead and that excitement is probably why we are having this conversation.
 
There have been many couples that had a case of butterflies explode into flat out fear on the way to their first outing, causing them to turn around and just go home.  Often, these couples will decide the “Lifestyle” is not for them and never venture out again.  Unfortunately, the assumption that the lifestyle is not for them is most likely false, as they probably would not have gotten that far if it were so.  At the very least, it would be a good idea to examine why they backed out, to look for other reasons behind it.

The majority of time it boils down to the extreme fear of the unknown, coupled with the pressure of “What am I getting myself into?” that causes panic and turns the car around.  There is an absolute flawless way to avoid this issue altogether, and that is to make a promise that the only person you are going to be with on this night, in any way, is your spouse.  When you leave the house that first night, set a time that Read more