What if I Can’t Get and Erection? - Swinger Says What?

If I was to open my Encyclopedia Britannica and open it to the swinger’s section, I would find that one of the most asked questions by new swingers goes something like this,

“What do I do if I have trouble getting a hard on?  Is this common? What kind of reaction should I expect?”

We get emails regarding this topic quite regularly, so for today’s Swinger Say’s What? segment we are going to openly discuss this somewhat disconcerting subject.

Let me begin by taking my bull horn out from under the desk, inhaling a deep breath, and then yelling into it,

“Men of the swinging world.  You are not alone!  Since the dawn of Swinging in the infancy of the Lifestyle, men new to the situation of swapping have sometimes found it difficult to obtain an erection when trying to copulate with someone other than his spouse”

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A Few Simple Questions - Ask Yourselves the Five W’s

If you are new to swinging and looking for information the most common advice you will get from seasoned veterans as well as other newbies is talk, talk, talk. On occasion the advisor will give you a suggestion of one or two topics to discuss with your partner. However in our experience no two couples have suggested the same topics.

So what should there be a swinger checklist? “If you can answer these questions correctly then you can be a swinger.” The thought is almost laughable. Just like no two couples suggest the same discussion topics no two couples swing the same way or have the same guidelines. Because as Dossie and Catherine say in “The Ethical Slut” No two relationships are the same. Read more

Excuse Me…. Swinger Says What???

Today at Gentle Nibbles we would like to open ourselves up to the World, both vanilla and swinger.  We are sending out a open request for any questions you would have for us.  We are getting ready to debut a new series here on Gentle Nibbles we are going to call, “Swinger Says What?”  In this series we are going to answer questions directly from you, our readers.

So if you are not a swinger and have a question about the LIfestyle you would like to know, here is your opportunity.  Ask as crazy or personal question as you would like to ask and we will do our best to give you a honest answer.  Just like your junior high school teacher told you, “There are no stupid questions!”  We had tons of questions before massaging our first set of boobies in the Lifestyle, and we know you do too!  So bring them on! Read more