Standing Tall - Battling an Uncooperative Penis

Last week we discussed the phenomenon many new male swingers face when first entering the lifestyle of obtaining and maintaining an erection during play. 

If you did not get a chance to read that post, click here to quickly read it before going on with today’s article.  The main discussion of that post was that even though most men do not admit to struggling with “performance anxiety”, it is a relatively common occurence especially among new swinger couples.

Fortunately, it is almost always a temporary problem often disappearing after couples gain a little more experience and becomes more comfortable in play situations.  This however does not make the experience any less troubling for the man involved, thus today we are going to discuss some things you can do to help make your soldier stand at attention when he is most needed! Read more

Full Swap versus Soft Swap

A famous writer once penned these famous words that would survive the test of history,

“To penetrate or not to penetrate, that is the question.”

…or something like that.  There is a really good chance that within the first seventeen and one third minutes of entering the lifestyle you encountered the question.  Are we “full swap” or “soft swap”?  Most “newbies” find themselves saying, “I am still a “pre-swap”, what the hell is “full swap” or “soft swap”.  Fortunately, “soft swap” has nothing to do with wearing fuzzy bunny costumes while engaging in sexual activities.  (Apologies to all you “furry” sex aficionados out there)

So what exactly is “full swap” and “soft swap” and what do I need to know about them.  These are terms that describe the level of play you are comfortable performing with another couple.  These are are actually just two of the six different “labels” couples use to describe themselves.  The six of them are: (I am putting a guess of the percentage of lifestylers in each group to give you an idea of what is out there)

• Voyeurs-(less than 1%)  This describes a couple who receives sexual gratification from watching other people have sex.  They are not interested in being involved, but just to watch.  There are very few couples that consider themselves purely voyeurs, but we have met one or two.  Due to the fact it is going to be tough to find a couple that is going to invite you over just like to watch, be patient if this is what you are into.  All lifestylers are voyeurs to differing extents by definition, but only a few limit themselves to this activity.

• Exhibitionists - (Less than 1%)  Exhibitionists are couples who find their fantasies leading them to exposing themselves and/or performing sexual acts in front of an audience.  Once again, we are all exhibitionists of some degree, but most of us do not  Read more

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  Table of contents for New Swingers Guides

  1. New Swingers Guide: Part One
  2. New Swingers Guide: Part Two
  3. New Swingers Guide: Part Three
  4. Swinger Dictionary
  5. The “Laws of Physics” as They Pertain to Swinging
  6. Full Swap versus Soft Swap

  

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