Ode to Pubic Hair

Where have all the patches gone….

Don’t get me wrong.  I absolutely love seeing a shaved or very neatly trimmed pubic region on a woman, but lately I have started missing the pubic patches of old.  One of the first things to go after entering the lifestyle is one’s pubic hair.  There is no hidden rule, but it does not take too many Internet profiles or trips to the club to realize walking around with a full mound of “lovin muffin” is not the most popular route to go.  Mrs. Gentlenibbles and I both started shaving ours within weeks of entering the lifestyle, and I love the way it looks on Mrs. G.  But……

Lately, I have come to miss seeing a little pubic hair on women now and then.  I am not sure why, so I have been trying to come up with some reasons.  Here is what I have so far.

• All the porn during my sexual maturation featured very full bush and thus many of my first sexual fantasies revolved around those ladies and their sexy mounds of hair.
• As a teenager, when I was just becoming sexually active (other than Rosy Palms), it was such a huge deal to get a glimpse of a girls …privates….. Usually those glimpses where way to short to take away any images for the “spank bank” other than those precious pubes.  Surely that causes a bit of mental sexual trigger for me these days.
• Intimacy, Intimacy, Intimacy!!!  One of my favorite things regarding sex with a woman is the exchange of intimacy.  The act of a woman sharing her body with me, is the single most erotic part of any sexual encounter I have.  The hair is part of that incredible intimacy exchange, so it’s presence could never be a negative in my book
• It does not gross me out.  Many are incredibly turned off my pubic hair, but I am not.  Many people are grossed out when they get in their mouth during oral sex.  This does not gross me out anymore than a woman’s hair getting in my mouth when nibbling on her neck or ears. (Another activity I love)

 OK.  With all the above being said I do not see Mrs. G and myself getting rid of our razors anytime soon, but Read more

Familiar Faces and other . . . “places”

Mr. Gentlenibbles and I got into a discussion the other day about which we liked more, playing with a new and unfamiliar couple or a couple we knew and had played with before. 

There is definitely an intensity and increased eroticism when playing with a couple you don’t know that well.  Mr. Gentlenibbles laughing told me the guys call this getting “strange”.  Referring to taking home a woman you don’t know after picking her up at the bar.  If you find that couple where everything is absolutely clicking and everyone is extremely hot the “playtime” can be off the charts.  The drawback is, there is some associated awkwardness that comes into play when you are playing with a couple you don’t know.  Sometimes a couple that was all fun and games all of the sudden gets quiet and shy when they are naked.

Playing with a couple you know well and enjoy can certainly be an awesome experience.  When you play with a couple you know, you have begun to map the orgasm highway a bit and can really share some smiles.  The familiarity also allows couples to be more open about exploring their turn-on and fantasies.  We really don’t see any drawbacks to being with couples we know as it is usually a guaranteed good time, but if you have limited times to play during the month being with familiar couples takes up spots for the new sexy greener grass on the other side.

What are your thoughts?

Do you prefer familiarity or do you thrive on the anticipation of the unknown?  Many couples enter the lifestyle for the eroticism of being with couples or people who they do not know.  Being intimate with a stranger is a turn on for some people and sometimes produces an overwhelming eagerness to please that person.  For some, this can be a lot of pressure. 

Familiarity definitely has its benefits.  Increased comfort levels may lead to more satisfying sex.  Being able to communicate openly with your play partner allows you to get to know that person and their “other places” and satisfy them more intensely, while enjoying it yourself!

Do you and your partner like meeting and playing with new couples or do you prefer playing regularly with a few, familiar couples?

~ Mrs. Gentlenibbles

A Defense of the Lifestyle!

I have spent the better part of the last hour typing up a comment on the article , “When Swinger Sex Goes Totally Wrong” on the website AskDanandJennifer.com.  Dan and Jennifer articles are usually very pro-lifestyle.  This one on the other hand, written by a guest author, was completely negative. 

My frustration was at what I percieved as illogical and error filled generalizations being touted by a supposed “expert” in marital relationships.  Please take the time to read the article here,  below the article you should find my comments which I have reposted below. 

“When Swinger Sex Goes Totally Wrong“, as a title it is compelling and encouraged me to read on. There are plenty of times that ill prepared couples who are considering the lifestyle for all the wrong reasons run head on into devastating consequences. That is where I get completely lost in this article. From my perspective a better title would have been, “When Tragically Flawed Marriages Behave as Predicted.”

Every couple mentioned is pursuing their desires through incredibly flawed marital logic, and even Dr. Phil would have to agree with that!!!

“Mark pushed the boundaries even further. He wanted to experience having sex with two women at one time.”

This is not a relationship of two equal and in love people discovering a new passionate existence. Saying Swinging is at fault because a person was pushed into it, is no better than saying a Snickers bar is evil because a person allergic to peanuts has one forced down their throat. In both cases, a VICTIM was pushed into doing something that was unhealthy for them.

“Unfortunately, Mark did not feel that way when he found them together one night when he arrived home early from work. Mark felt betrayed and could never look at Linda the same way again.”

Cheating is Cheating is Cheating is Cheating!!! This has nothing to do with swinging and everything to do with choosing to circumvent a relationships core values of trust and security for one’s own personal temporary pleasure. The logic of blaming swinging for this carries no more merit than blaming perfume for infidelity. Both of these pleasure giving phenomenon’s may have planted a seed of lust and excitement, but the action of choosing to betray your spouse is a decision only made by you!!!

I am sorry Mrs. Brooke; you should really find some Swinger’s to talk to you instead of couples with hundreds of problems, one of them being sleeping with other people!

Unfortunately my disagreement does not end there. Some of the generalizations and advice I find absolutely in error!

“When you open the door and invite another person into the intimate connection with your partner you are inviting in trouble”

I certainly and whole heartedly agree it is not for everyone, but with the millions of swingers in this country with happy, long, and stable marriages this statement is a complete fallacy!

“What’s predictable about it is that someone will end up hurt. The “ground rules” will be broken and someone ends up feeling betrayed and hurt.”

Once again, see response above. How can this blanket statement be true? As a scientist by trade, I never trust a person using absolutes!!!

“Now, in theory, I will conjecture that there are couples secure enough with each other where they can have flings with other people and not do any perceivable damage to their relationship.”

The author’s use of the word “flings” here indicates a true lack of understanding in the lifestyle. Nearly all swingers I know and converse with are not in the lifestyle to merely have sex with other people, but are utilizing the liberation of the freedom of their sexuality to heighten the sex between them and their most intense desire, THEIR SPOUSE!!!

As with heavy wind and a weak and broken ship, swinging can be a devastating force. A relationship that has insecurities, insensitivities, or other flaws will only find them magnified by the intensity of the lifestyle. On the other hand, just as a well piloted and constructed sail boat can harness that same powerful wind to do amazing things, when a happy healthy couple approaches swinging for the right reasons…….HANG ON FOR THE RIDE!!!

Mr. Gentlenibbes

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