The “Laws of Physics” as They Pertain to Swinging

In a recent post, I jokingly made a reference to the “Laws of Physics of Swinging” in an attempt to point out one of the common small misconceptions new swingers sometimes have.  For many beginners in the lifestyle, the first few months are full of learning lingo, gaining confidence, but mostly getting comfortable in how to behave in these totally new scenarios.  There are not many life experiences that prepare a person for having a “normal” conversation with a person while actively discussing the possibility of having some type of sexual interaction with their spouse.

My entire life, I have had very little trouble talking to people.  I have a knack for entertaining people and making them laugh, but the night my wife and I decided to go a little further than flirting with another couple I might has well have been a mute.   We had been flirting with the couple most of the night, the chemistry was definitely there, and Mrs. Gentlenibbles and I decided this was the night.  The next thing I know the best conversation I could muster, was weather comments, sports scores, and the occasional “yeah, cool”.  Just like a man, who finds himself suddenly blindfolded, would have a few worries about taking off into a full sprint, my awareness of this brand new situation robbed me of my confidence.  Without this confidence, intelligent conversation much less humor, became much more difficult to deliver. 

We had taken time research and layout all the major ground rules of what was taking place, but we never addressed the small stuff.  Mrs. Gentlenibbles and myself slowly over a period of months started figuring the allowable behaviors, social faux paux,  and etiquette of our new world.  With each morsel of knowledge we gained, we became more comfortable and ultimately had more fun.  So in an effort to speed up the process of your journey to “comfortable” swinger we would like to share some of these tidbits with you.   Read more

New Swingers Guide: Part Three

(This post is a follow up post to New Swingers Guide: Part Two)

Do you smell that?  It is the smell of something exciting in the air.  You have done plenty of research, an incredible amount of talking between you and your spouse, and you have even been flirting and learning about the lifestyle in your community.  Now you are ready to take the “big” step and get away from the mouse and keyboard to begin interacting with your fellow “swingers” in the flesh.  Before we run out the door, let’s discuss a few things about this special occasion.

Every couple had butterflies on their first night, and many (including Mrs. Gentlenibbles and I) still get a few when we go out.  To be honest, being a little nervous is a good thing, it means excitement is ahead and that excitement is probably why we are having this conversation.
 
There have been many couples that had a case of butterflies explode into flat out fear on the way to their first outing, causing them to turn around and just go home.  Often, these couples will decide the “Lifestyle” is not for them and never venture out again.  Unfortunately, the assumption that the lifestyle is not for them is most likely false, as they probably would not have gotten that far if it were so.  At the very least, it would be a good idea to examine why they backed out, to look for other reasons behind it.

The majority of time it boils down to the extreme fear of the unknown, coupled with the pressure of “What am I getting myself into?” that causes panic and turns the car around.  There is an absolute flawless way to avoid this issue altogether, and that is to make a promise that the only person you are going to be with on this night, in any way, is your spouse.  When you leave the house that first night, set a time that Read more

Swinger Dictionary

Since this week postings have really been focusing on New Swingers and their introduction to the lifestyle, I thought it would be a good idea to introduce some of the terminology used in the community.  Some of the vocabulary may be graphic and a little shocking.  I can assure you, anything that sounds weird or gross to you, probably sounds the same to the majority of the lifestylers.  But just as in church on Sunday, there are a few in our midst who enjoy the real kinky side.  For that reason I have tried to include those definitions as well. 

I will be posting this as a permanent page on the site for future reference as well.  Good Luck and go learn something!

AC/DC
Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual.
ADULT
Euphemism for pornographic.
ALL CULTURES
Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE)
AMERICAN CULTURE
Man on top, the missionary Read more

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