A Night of Passion

On one of our first outings, we met a group of couples at a local bar.  This being our first experience in meeting up with a group of swingers, we were really nervous and did not know what to expect.  We had been talking with one of the couples via Yahoo IM, but had not met them in person.  

At the bar, we all sat around, had a few drinks and listened to the talented band play.  Not long after we arrived the couple who invited us suddenly left with one of the other couples.  As stated before, this was our first experience going out with a group of swingers, so we were somewhat surprised at the sudden exit, but the other couples were great company and a good time was had by all.

By the time we left that night, we hit it off really well with one of the couples; so well, in fact, that we made plans to meet them again the next night.  We met the next night and had a few drinks and again enjoyed the company of a great local band.   I danced with him and my husband danced with her.  The four of us chatted and became more acquainted.  

With a little encouragement from the guys, we girls moved a little closer together.  At first, we gazed into each other’s eyes.  Her eyes were seductive and inviting. The gaze transformed to kissing and the kissing became very intense.  Her mouth and her touch were very sensual, and we could hardly keep our hands off of each other. 

Keeping in mind that we were at a vanilla club, it became too intense to continue there.  We all gathered our things and rushed out the door.  The closest hotel was our next stop. Once in the room, we Read more

The SecretSide Fantasies - Letter Three (cont. again)

 This is a continuation of the third letter in a series of letters exchanged by Mr. and Mrs. SecretSide, as we began revealing our fantasies to each other in our first steps towards the exploration of the Lifestyle. 

(To Mr. SecretSide from Mrs. SecretSide) 
 
Note: This letter was actually an amalgamation of both of our fantasies.  Mr. Secretside started it and then it was traded back and forth as we both added our own special….touches!

. . . your dripping pussy getting it all wet, you rock your hips so that my cock also rubs your clit.  You move one hand down between her legs and find the warm, wet folds of her pussy.  You begin exploring by rubbing back and forth slowly, then sliding in one finger, then two.  She places her head on your neck and begins to moan, fully enjoying you fingering her.  After a few moments, Savannah reaches down between your legs where my cock is.  Since it is so wet with your juices she places her hand on the underside of my cock and slowly rubs it from my balls to the head.  She then guides my cock into your pussy, holding it by the base until I am all the way in.  As I slowly fuck you holding onto your hips, Savannah is alternating between caressing my balls and rubbing your clit (and you know how I love to have my balls caressed!!!), all the while you two are still kissing.  She reaches down and takes my hands from your hips and places them on her tits.
Things are getting very hot in the living room when she suggests that we take the party into her bedroom.  We separate from each other, she leads the way holding your hand, while your holding my hand.  Once in the bedroom Savannah asks if you’d like to try something you hadn’t in your first encounter. Sure, you reply excitedly.  She leads you to the bed and says “I’d love to 69 with you while Mike watches”.  A big smile appears on your face.  She has you get on the bed and lay on your back, she gets on, straddles your face, you have a great view of her pussy and ass (later you tell me that at this point you couldn’t wait to taste her again).  She settles her pussy right on your mouth where your tongue begins to explore her pussy and clit.  Her mouth finds its way to your Read more

A Defense of the Lifestyle!

I have spent the better part of the last hour typing up a comment on the article , “When Swinger Sex Goes Totally Wrong” on the website AskDanandJennifer.com.  Dan and Jennifer articles are usually very pro-lifestyle.  This one on the other hand, written by a guest author, was completely negative. 

My frustration was at what I percieved as illogical and error filled generalizations being touted by a supposed “expert” in marital relationships.  Please take the time to read the article here,  below the article you should find my comments which I have reposted below. 

“When Swinger Sex Goes Totally Wrong“, as a title it is compelling and encouraged me to read on. There are plenty of times that ill prepared couples who are considering the lifestyle for all the wrong reasons run head on into devastating consequences. That is where I get completely lost in this article. From my perspective a better title would have been, “When Tragically Flawed Marriages Behave as Predicted.”

Every couple mentioned is pursuing their desires through incredibly flawed marital logic, and even Dr. Phil would have to agree with that!!!

“Mark pushed the boundaries even further. He wanted to experience having sex with two women at one time.”

This is not a relationship of two equal and in love people discovering a new passionate existence. Saying Swinging is at fault because a person was pushed into it, is no better than saying a Snickers bar is evil because a person allergic to peanuts has one forced down their throat. In both cases, a VICTIM was pushed into doing something that was unhealthy for them.

“Unfortunately, Mark did not feel that way when he found them together one night when he arrived home early from work. Mark felt betrayed and could never look at Linda the same way again.”

Cheating is Cheating is Cheating is Cheating!!! This has nothing to do with swinging and everything to do with choosing to circumvent a relationships core values of trust and security for one’s own personal temporary pleasure. The logic of blaming swinging for this carries no more merit than blaming perfume for infidelity. Both of these pleasure giving phenomenon’s may have planted a seed of lust and excitement, but the action of choosing to betray your spouse is a decision only made by you!!!

I am sorry Mrs. Brooke; you should really find some Swinger’s to talk to you instead of couples with hundreds of problems, one of them being sleeping with other people!

Unfortunately my disagreement does not end there. Some of the generalizations and advice I find absolutely in error!

“When you open the door and invite another person into the intimate connection with your partner you are inviting in trouble”

I certainly and whole heartedly agree it is not for everyone, but with the millions of swingers in this country with happy, long, and stable marriages this statement is a complete fallacy!

“What’s predictable about it is that someone will end up hurt. The “ground rules” will be broken and someone ends up feeling betrayed and hurt.”

Once again, see response above. How can this blanket statement be true? As a scientist by trade, I never trust a person using absolutes!!!

“Now, in theory, I will conjecture that there are couples secure enough with each other where they can have flings with other people and not do any perceivable damage to their relationship.”

The author’s use of the word “flings” here indicates a true lack of understanding in the lifestyle. Nearly all swingers I know and converse with are not in the lifestyle to merely have sex with other people, but are utilizing the liberation of the freedom of their sexuality to heighten the sex between them and their most intense desire, THEIR SPOUSE!!!

As with heavy wind and a weak and broken ship, swinging can be a devastating force. A relationship that has insecurities, insensitivities, or other flaws will only find them magnified by the intensity of the lifestyle. On the other hand, just as a well piloted and constructed sail boat can harness that same powerful wind to do amazing things, when a happy healthy couple approaches swinging for the right reasons…….HANG ON FOR THE RIDE!!!

Mr. Gentlenibbes

Let me just say that I absololutely love Askdanandjennifer.com and I think Read more