Full Swap versus Soft Swap
January 5, 2008 by Mr. GentleNibbles · 2 Comments
A famous writer once penned these famous words that would survive the test of history,
“To penetrate or not to penetrate, that is the question.”
…or something like that. There is a really good chance that within the first seventeen and one third minutes of entering the lifestyle you encountered the question. Are we “full swap” or “soft swap”? Most “newbies” find themselves saying, “I am still a “pre-swap”, what the hell is “full swap” or “soft swap”. Fortunately, “soft swap” has nothing to do with wearing fuzzy bunny costumes while engaging in sexual activities. (Apologies to all you “furry” sex aficionados out there)
So what exactly is “full swap” and “soft swap” and what do I need to know about them. These are terms that describe the level of play you are comfortable performing with another couple. These are are actually just two of the six different “labels” couples use to describe themselves. The six of them are: (I am putting a guess of the percentage of lifestylers in each group to give you an idea of what is out there)
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Voyeurs-(less than 1%) This describes a couple who receives sexual gratification from watching other people have sex. They are not interested in being involved, but just to watch. There are very few couples that consider themselves purely voyeurs, but we have met one or two. Due to the fact it is going to be tough to find a couple that is going to invite you over just like to watch, be patient if this is what you are into. All lifestylers are voyeurs to differing extents by definition, but only a few limit themselves to this activity.
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Exhibitionists - (Less than 1%) Exhibitionists are couples who find their fantasies leading them to exposing themselves and/or performing sexual acts in front of an audience. Once again, we are all exhibitionists of some degree, but most of us do not Read more
Table of contents for New Swingers Guides
What to wear? What to wear! -”For the Ladies” by Mrs. G
December 29, 2007 by Mrs. Gentlenibbles · Leave a Comment
This is post number two in the FTL(For the Ladies) a series of tips and advice for the ladies by Mrs. Genltenibbles.
Well, if you’re anything like me, going to a lifestyle club for the first time was a little nerve-racking! I had no idea what to expect or what to wear! I wore some sexy jeans, a cute shirt and high-heel sandals. Mr. Gentlenibbles swears I wore a turtleneck, but that is not true!!
I don’t remember if there was a theme the first night we went to a lifestyle club, and honestly, we probably made a bigger deal out of the clothing issue than anyone else. Even though I had on jeans and a nice shirt, I still received plenty of attention and made lots of new friends!
My advice to other women is to wear whatever makes you comfortable, but don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone just a little to bring out the sexy in you!
Many women wear jeans to the club on a regular basis. Honestly, it’s whatever you are comfortable wearing. The way I see it, most clubwear is not much different than wearing a bikini or Read more
Table of contents for Mrs. G's "For the Ladies" Advice
- You’re Beautiful! -”For the Ladies” by Mrs. Gentlenibbles
- What to wear? What to wear! -”For the Ladies” by Mrs. G
- Scentsational -”For the Ladies” by Mrs. Gentlenibbles
- Considering a Brazilian Wax? - “For the Ladies” by Mrs. Gentlenibbles



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