Drama: The Art of Making Sexy Time Not So Sexy!

In the Lifestyle, unlike the vanilla world the big “D” word is not Divorce, but rather Drama!  Drama is defined by Merriam Webster as: a state, situation, or series of events involving interesting or intense conflict of forces There is nothing worse than witnessing an “intense conflict of forces” while standing around with your underwear [...]

Full Swap versus Soft Swap

A famous writer once penned these famous words that would survive the test of history, “To penetrate or not to penetrate, that is the question.” …or something like that. There is a really good chance that within the first seventeen and one third minutes of entering the lifestyle you encountered the question. Are we “full [...]

The “Laws of Physics” as They Pertain to Swinging

In a recent post, I jokingly made a reference to the “Laws of Physics of Swinging” in an attempt to point out one of the common small misconceptions new swingers sometimes have.  For many beginners in the lifestyle, the first few months are full of learning lingo, gaining confidence, but mostly getting comfortable in how to [...]

New Swingers Guide: Part Three

(This post is a follow up post to New Swingers Guide: Part Two) Do you smell that?  It is the smell of something exciting in the air.  You have done plenty of research, an incredible amount of talking between you and your spouse, and you have even been flirting and learning about the lifestyle in [...]

Swinger Dictionary

Since this week postings have really been focusing on New Swingers and their introduction to the lifestyle, I thought it would be a good idea to introduce some of the terminology used in the community.  Some of the vocabulary may be graphic and a little shocking.  I can assure you, anything that sounds weird or [...]

New Swingers Guide: Part Two

(This post is a follow up post to New Swingers Guide: Part One) So you have done your research, been all over the Internet, and hopefully at least brushed your teeth. You are ready to get out in this erotic new world and meet some other lifestylers. Thats great! Where do we go from here? [...]

New Swingers Guide: Part One

So you and your spouse have mentioned the big “S’” word to each other and are ready to take a first step.  The “S” word I refer to is swinging for those of you who may have had a few margaritas before sitting down at the computer tonight.  So what is that first step?  Before [...]