New Swingers Guide: Part Three

(This post is a follow up post to New Swingers Guide: Part Two)

Do you smell that?  It is the smell of something exciting in the air.  You have done plenty of research, an incredible amount of talking between you and your spouse, and you have even been flirting and learning about the lifestyle in your community.  Now you are ready to take the “big” step and get away from the mouse and keyboard to begin interacting with your fellow “swingers” in the flesh.  Before we run out the door, let’s discuss a few things about this special occasion.

Every couple had butterflies on their first night, and many (including Mrs. Gentlenibbles and I) still get a few when we go out.  To be honest, being a little nervous is a good thing, it means excitement is ahead and that excitement is probably why we are having this conversation.
 
There have been many couples that had a case of butterflies explode into flat out fear on the way to their first outing, causing them to turn around and just go home.  Often, these couples will decide the “Lifestyle” is not for them and never venture out again.  Unfortunately, the assumption that the lifestyle is not for them is most likely false, as they probably would not have gotten that far if it were so.  At the very least, it would be a good idea to examine why they backed out, to look for other reasons behind it.

The majority of time it boils down to the extreme fear of the unknown, coupled with the pressure of “What am I getting myself into?” that causes panic and turns the car around.  There is an absolute flawless way to avoid this issue altogether, and that is to make a promise that the only person you are going to be with on this night, in any way, is your spouse.  When you leave the house that first night, set a time that Read more

Swinger Dictionary

Since this week postings have really been focusing on New Swingers and their introduction to the lifestyle, I thought it would be a good idea to introduce some of the terminology used in the community.  Some of the vocabulary may be graphic and a little shocking.  I can assure you, anything that sounds weird or gross to you, probably sounds the same to the majority of the lifestylers.  But just as in church on Sunday, there are a few in our midst who enjoy the real kinky side.  For that reason I have tried to include those definitions as well. 

I will be posting this as a permanent page on the site for future reference as well.  Good Luck and go learn something!

AC/DC
Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual.
ADULT
Euphemism for pornographic.
ALL CULTURES
Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE)
AMERICAN CULTURE
Man on top, the missionary Read more

New Swingers Guide: Part Two

(This post is a follow up post to New Swingers Guide: Part One)

So you have done your research, been all over the Internet, and hopefully at least brushed your teeth. You are ready to get out in this erotic new world and meet some other lifestylers. Thats great! Where do we go from here?

In order to meet other lifestylers, you need to find some places to interact with us. It is probably in your best interest for now, to choose a place where you and your spouse will be comfortable and not feel pressure. There is no opportunity for lower pressure than being in your underwear, drinking a glass of wine or cold beer, and once again sitting in front of your computer. Yes, one of the best places for new and veteran swingers alike to interact, do some window shopping, and get to know each other a little bit is online.

The wonders of modern technology have made it possible to literally meet hundreds, or in large cities thousands of other couples with a few mouse clicks. There are several websites out there that act as “dating” websites for swingers. What is great, is that some of them have pretty Read more

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